- What Are Natural and Logical Consequences?
- Benefits of Using Natural and Logical Consequences to Modify a Child’s Behavior
- How Can Parents Use Logical and Natural Consequences Wisely?
- When You Should Not Use Natural And Logical Consequences
- Examples of Disobedience and It’s Natural and Logical Consequence
Actions and consequences are universal, and children have the ability to understand that consequences follow every action. Therefore, allowing them to experience both natural and logical consequences is one of the best ways to teach responsibility. However, parents can often find themselves at a loss of ideas in the heat of the moment and miss out on good opportunities to discipline their children. This article will guide you through all you need to know about disciplining your child using natural and logical consequences in early childhood.
What Are Natural and Logical Consequences?
Natural consequences, as the word suggests, is the inevitable result that follows the actions of your child without your interference. Think of it as a fallout of not doing something, or doing something they are not supposed to, and facing the consequences. Say your child refuses to wear a jacket after repeated warnings that it is going to become colder as night falls. As evening approaches, he starts feeling cold and begins shivering. Or, your little one couldn’t stop himself from eating too many gummy bears despite you telling him that it would give him a tummy ache in the night.
Logical consequences, on the other hand, are what you impose on your child as a disciplinary measure when a rule is broken. They are best linked to bad behaviour. For example, your child plays with a basketball inside the house despite the strict rule against it and ends up breaking a lamp. The logical consequence is that he will have to give up his allowance to replace the lamp or do extra chores as a disciplinary action. Another example is he is forbidden to ride his tricycle in the street, and he breaks the rule. The logical consequence is that you take away his tricycle for the day.
Consequences can be negative or positive. Going to bed late will leave him feeling cranky, groggy, and generally, out of mood the whole day. On the other hand, going early to bed will ensure your child is well-rested and feels active, cheerful, and energetic. Let’s take a look at some more benefits of logical and natural consequences.
Benefits of Using Natural and Logical Consequences to Modify a Child’s Behavior
Both natural and logical consequences are useful in teaching responsible behaviour to children. Here is how they work.
- Although natural consequences have strong life lessons to teach, logical consequences are the better choice as a general rule in most circumstances when it comes to your child’s health and safety. Natural consequences are best replaced with logical consequences when the effect is potentially life-altering. For example, if your child refuses to brush his teeth often, you could allow the natural consequence of cavities to form and destroy his teeth. However, since the damage is permanent, replacing it with a logical consequence such as no-dessert or sweets when the rest of the family is enjoying some is the better option.
- You can relax with some natural consequences when ‘learning it the hard way’ is a more powerful lesson than an imposed punishment. Your child will be less likely to not bring his jacket or to forget it on the next outing on a cold day. Or, he would control his indulgence with the gummy bears and not ruin the party for himself wherever he goes. The inevitability of natural consequences means he has no one to blame than himself and the message that it is futile to fight it becomes clear.
- Since consequences can be both pleasant and unpleasant, your child has the option to choose between them over his behaviour. By allowing them to experience both in effect, you are giving your child a choice to control the outcome of the situation. This helps him make long-term better choices by not giving in to impulses.
- Using consequences is an effective method to separate the child from his behavioural problem or bad decisions. This ensures that the child understands that he is not a bad person, only his choice or action in that particular instance was bad. This way, the child will understand that making bad choices will result in bad consequences.
- There is no punishment, judging, or shaming associated with consequences. Your child made a choice, and it comes with results; it is as simple as that. If he broke something in the house intentionally or by negligence, the next step is for him to decide how he will work to replace it without being labelled as bad for what he did.
- Consequences take out yelling, punishment, and anger out of the equation. Instead, it places the focus on teaching and rectifying the behaviour. You need not react with any emotion or be angry about what happened. There’s no need for long speeches or yelling; the consequences take care of what is to come.
- Consequences are all about owning the mistake and taking up the responsibility to correct what went wrong.
For parents, there is a way they can use logical and natural consequences naturally. Read on to know more.
How Can Parents Use Logical and Natural Consequences Wisely?
Consequences are a wonderful replacement to traditional disciplining methods. Here are ways in which you can use it to the fullest:
1. No Need for Repeated Warnings or Punishments
There is no need to threaten your child or punish them for a certain behaviour when using natural or logical consequences. You won’t have to go “If you don’t do that right now, I will..’’, the child will eventually understand that an action “X” leads to the consequence “Y”. For logical consequences, you can have a list to remind them. For example, the logical consequence for lying about finishing chores is that they have to pick up more the next time and give a detailed report on all that was done.
2. Reminding Children of Their Choices
When modifying your child’s behaviour, it is best to offer him a few choices as a consequence. Ensure you offer him a choice that you can live with and don’t harm him emotionally. Instead of a threat, such as “Stop kicking your brother or you will have a time out!”, tell your child that he has to sit and think calmly about the behaviour. The logical consequence for hitting then becomes putting himself in his brother’s place to understand how it feels to get kicked. And, when he is ready to play nice, he can join the family again.
3. Stay Firm and Consistent
It is important to stay firm with your logical consequences no matter how much your child expresses anger, resentment, or tries to take you on a guilt-trip. Remind him that consequences are final, and it was the choice that he made. Relaxing the consequence even once allows your kid to use it the next time to try harder to get away with it. Therefore, unless it’s impossible to carry out the logical consequence under the circumstance, stay consistent.
4. The Consequences Should Fit the Behavior
When coming up with consequences, it is essential that the consequence fits the mistake perfectly to get the lesson across. It won’t make much sense to give a general punishment such as cutting out the dessert if your child doesn’t pick up after his playtime. The right consequence is he won’t get the toy until the next day if he doesn’t clean up after himself. The logical consequence of not listening to your instruction of not playing basketball inside the house is that the ball gets confiscated before your child enters the house, and he only gets it when he is ready to play outside.
5. Do Not Nag About the Past
Avoid saying lines such as “You never listen to me”, “You will always forget”, instead use more positive reinforcement such as “Good job cleaning up after yourself”. Appreciate them when they get something right and avoid criticisms as much as possible. Children respond better to appreciation than nagging. Let the failures of their past stay there and focus on the present and immediate future.
6. Wherever Possible, Allow the Child to Decide the Consequence
This can be quite an effective technique as children are more likely to participate in the decision they make. Therefore, whenever possible, allow your child to decide what the consequence is going to be. This will ensure he will face the consequence when he fails to live up to it. It often happens that children can come up with better consequences than parents when given the opportunity. So, get your little one involved in the decision making.
As parents, you must also know where not to use natural and logical consequences as it could be risky for the child and the people around him. Read the next part of the article to know when you need stricter measures instead of using natural and logical consequences.
When You Should Not Use Natural And Logical Consequences
- When the child has deeply offended somebody in some way or continues to do so repeatedly.
- When the child refuses to do his homework or displays anxiety, it could indicate an underlying learning disability.
- When the physical safety of the child and those around him is a concern, for example, risk-taking behaviour in teens.
- When the child has physically harmed a peer or damaged someone’s property.
Examples of Disobedience and It’s Natural and Logical Consequence
Here are a few examples of disobedience/problematic behaviour and the consequences best-suited for them:
1. The Child Forgets His Musical Instrument Often
A natural consequence of this behaviour is that the child needs to make up for the music/band lessons later.
2. The Child Repeatedly Refuses to Shower
The ideal natural consequence for non-compliance is the social repercussions from friends and peers outside due to body odour.
3. The Child Does Not Put Laundry in the Hamper as Told
The logical consequence for this is that only the clothes in the hamper get washed on laundry day.
4. The Child Is Noisy Inside the House During Playtime
The logical consequence is to send the child outside to play despite their preference to play inside.
5. The Child Does Not Pick Up Toys After Playtime
The logical consequence of this situation is the loss of privilege to play with those toys until the child picks up after the next playtime.
6. The Child Is Late to the Table
The logical consequence is that the dinner stops serving after everyone is done.
7. The Child Does Not Put a Baseball Glove Away After Wash
The natural consequence is the child will have a wet glove at practice the next day,
Natural and logical consequences are effective disciplinary strategies than threats and punishments. They take the blame away from the child and replace it with lessons to set up a corrective mechanism in a positive manner.