A marriage brings two people together who then take their life ahead as one. In a marriage, responsibilities and duties are shared by two, and this means sharing the responsibility of the child too; it is something that both parents need to be concerned. Although roles and responsibilities in a marriage could vary, it is very important for both the parents to be equally responsible for a pregnancy.
In fact, by being there for your wife, you are not just helping, but rather you are fulfilling a responsibility as a loyal husband and a father.
Sometimes as a husband, you might not be sure of how to help although you want to. If you are wondering what husbands should do for their pregnant wives, then this is a guide that will give you an idea of your responsibilities as a husband during this important chapter of your life.
15 Duties of a To-be-father in Pregnancy
Here are some essential points to remember when your wife is pregnant with your child. By following these, you will surely become a great father and definitely an amazing husband.
1. Educate Yourself
You need to be aware of the things that happen during pregnancy. At times, just knowing and understanding what your wife is going through is a huge step. When your wife is pregnant, there are so many things to take care of and pay attention to. Reading about the little things like food habits and clothing as well as the bigger things like delivery and morning sickness will help you to support your wife.
2. Help if She Struggles with Morning Sickness
Morning sickness can be a painful experience, and women got tired and exhausted in no time. As a husband, you need to support your wife during this time. Encourage her, stand by her side, and make her feel comfortable, especially when she is struggling with morning sickness.
3. Be Sensitive
Things will definitely change in the next few months. There will be mood swings, emotional struggle, pain etc. During this time, these shifts are natural, so learn to be patient when your wife goes through these changes. Be sensitive to her requests and always respond with kindness.
4. Encourage Her
Your wife needs support and encouragement during this stage. Pregnancy is the time when a woman is happy and excited, but at the same time, she is struggling with uncertainty, fear, and other physical changes. During this journey of pregnancy, it is important to be there and encourage her. Keep reminding her that you are with her and she need not worry.
5. Be Flexible
There will be times when you have to go out of your way or even change plans for your wife. During this period your wife will need you a lot more than before. At times this can be difficult for a working husband. What you could still do is try and spend time with her as much as possible whenever you are free. Meanwhile, you could even try requesting more flexible hours or work from home option if you have a choice. This way, you can be there for your wife whenever she needs you.
6. Cook with Her
Get involved in cooking when your wife is pregnant. She will really appreciate if you can help her with cooking. You could even tell her to take a break from the usual cooking routine and take up the duty. This is a good way of helping out during this phase.
7. Stay with Her
Pregnant women are suggested to take ample rest and not to strain themselves. Hence, they go to their mother’s house or some other place where she gets good rest. But travelling during pregnancy is not really healthy. As a couple, you should stay with each other up until the 8th month as it will allow you to take the responsibilities together.
8. Plan with Her
Once you get to know that your wife is pregnant, you await your child’s birth. But as a responsible couple, it is important that you plan for the future so that you will be ready once your baby arrives. Make plans with your wife and discuss the little things, as this little act of yours will encourage her and make her feel that you are in this together. This is also a time when you can think of names for your little one.
9. Take Up the Responsibility
One of the most important things is to take up the responsibility as a father and let your wife know it’s not just on her. Help her when she needs you, and make sure to talk about the pregnancy like it’s for the two of you.
10. Be a Good Listener
This is one of those times when you have to be patient and listen to all that your wife has to tell you. Pregnancy can be an emotional journey for your wife, so make sure to be there for her and listen to all the things she says. She will be extremely happy when you listen to whatever she says even when those things don’t make sense to you.
11. Give a Hand in Household Chores
This is the time when you take the responsibility for household chores. Every day your wife runs around and does all the household chores without complaining, but when she is pregnant you should take care of these things as household chores can tire her out. Carrying a baby is not an easy task, it can be taxing for her. Hence, it is important that the two of you share responsibilities or even take up most of the household responsibilities.
12. Visit the Doctor
Accompanying your wife to the hospital is definitely a huge support to her during this time. Visiting the doctor can get stressful if there are some complications in pregnancy and you should not leave your wife to face all these problems alone. Whenever your wife’s schedule a doctor’s appointment, you must go with her.
13. Prepare for the Delivery
Prepare with her for the big day. At times, preparing for the delivery and waiting for the baby can get extremely stressful for a woman, so try to calm her during this time. Tell her that she has managed so well so far and tell her to stay positive. Let her know that you are with her during this process, especially when she worries.
14. Give Her Time
Pregnancy period is extremely crucial to all women. There will be mood swings, weird food cravings, and what not. But you should not complain. Being there for her physically and emotionally is essential. In fact, during this time she will be extremely dependent on you. And so it is best to keep other things aside and be a pillar of support to your wife.
15. Make Her Feel Special
As the pregnancy progresses, your wife may feel low and even a little out of place when it comes to her physical appearance because of her bulging belly. At this time you may not understand how to convince her that she is perfect the way she is. So, look into her eyes and tell her that she is important and make her feel beautiful and special. Be sincere when you say this to her. You can even do a maternity photoshoot to make her feel special. When a husband cares for her wife during pregnancy, it can make a stark of difference.
When a baby is born, both the parents take responsibility. In the same way, even when a woman is pregnant, both parents must take equal responsibility and work things out together. When a woman is carrying a baby, she takes all the responsibilities that come her way. However, it is different for the father. But you need to be with her and support her through this process. At no time should you make her feel that the responsibility is only on her. Role of a husband during pregnancy really matters as it will definitely change the way your wife approaches the 9 months. It can even make a difference to your baby who is in the womb. Hence, make sure that this is a time when you are doing everything possible to enrich this journey of pregnancy.