I always wanted to be a mother. The thought of someone hugging me, someone calling me ‘mama’ always excited me. My husband and I had to wait 4 years for the arrival of our little bundle of joy.
When I got pregnant, I never thought of all the sacrifices I would have to make. My pregnancy was not as smooth as I thought it would be. Low lying placenta in the 4th month had me bedridden for nearly 2 months. During my 34th week of pregnancy, my cervical was dilated and I was in early labour. However, my doctor thought it was best we delayed the labour for a couple of weeks for the betterment and safety of my baby and me. And so I was advised bed rest for another couple of weeks.
My little angel was born on the 12th of November, 2018, after 5 hours of labour. I feel blessed to have a short labour and a vaginal delivery. We named our little bundle of joy ‘Tira’, which means glimmer of light. With the delivery came all sorts of other problems. I went through post-pregnancy depression and it was very difficult to cope with. Silly things would make me cry. From a proud mother that I was suppose to be, I became the paranoid mother. I was sleep deprived and nothing would excite me. There were moments where I would hold my baby in my arms and I would just cry. The thought that I was not good enough for her kept haunting me. In moments like these, friends and family played an important role. They kept reminding me that I was doing a good job and it was a phase of my life which would soon pass. Every time I felt low, I remembered their words and it gave me courage to take one step at a time, towards motherhood.
Today my baby is 6 months old, and when I look back at all the moments where I cried during depression, I remembered it was just a phase and it did pass. A few tips I would share in this article which I should have followed during my difficult times:
- Sleep when the baby sleeps.
- Swaddle the baby as this would calm her down and give her a feeling of comfort.
- Do not carry the baby all the time.
- Give the baby tummy time or play time, let them be on their own for a while.
- It is alright to co-sleep with the baby as this would allow the mother to nurse during the night.
- Spend time with the baby by going for a walk as this would be a good change for baby and mummy.
- Trust you motherly instincts. They can never be wrong.
- Do not listen to others all the time, it will only add to the stress. Do what is best for you and the baby.
- Do not forget to capture every moment of your child.
New mothers should cherish the moments life offers them. Motherhood is a beautiful journey, and being a mother is the most beautiful feeling a woman can have. I cannot wait to be a mother once again. Till then, I’ll cherish every milestone of my baby and enjoy this wonderful journey of motherhood.
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