Indeed! A mum’s life is just like living a life of a Superwoman.When our toddler doesn’t show interest in the food served, we rush quickly to make a new dish for her because we want her tummy to be full no matter how tired we are. Caring for our child and family is our first priority, but we need to take care of ourselves as well. When we are not mentally and physically fit, we can’t fulfil our priorities and responsibilities.The early years of parenthood are very crucial and we have to face many challenges that we can’t even tolerate in our earlier days. Our relationship with our spouse is also comes into the fall as we can’t judge each other right in this situation mostly because we expect more from each other.Here I would like to share how our life has changed after motherhood and how we can set our new life with the same care and attention.
Change of Identity
Before the baby, it’s much easier to acknowledge our own needs, but after becoming a mother, our child is a reflection of us. The things we do with our child and the upbringing we impart to our child judge our personality more than anything else.
Excuse for Social Life
Before having a child, we can easily make a plan to hang out with our friends and family. But after child we have to consider several things to make a single visit to them. Recently, my cousin skipped our family get-together because her child was crying so much at the new faces in the crowd (he is five months old). We all missed her with her baby on that occasion.
Earlier, we would be more focused on our career than anything else and we make out time easily for our hobbies. But when the baby arrives, our career comes later in our new life, as do our hobbies. Some mothers even leave their jobs for their baby’s care and future. However, those who handle both in the same run have to face many problems and family sacrifices. However, it all depends on person to person and their situations.
Relation With Our Spouse
This new life brings change into the life of new parents, and mothers become closer to their child with increasing responsibilities. When we can’t get our husband to support us when we need them to handle our child, the love in the relationship falls short and the situation worsens everyday if it has not been sorted out.
These are some of many changes and I have explained. Now, let’s come to the point where we can talk about how we can get our life back after these changes. Here are some of the suggestions you can utilise in your life.
Getting New Ways to Connect With Your Friends
Friends always work as a stress buster, so try to make a meeting with them. Yes, you can’t do it like your earlier days (like spending whole night with them), but instead, you can visit them in public areas and kids playgrounds. Even malls now have a kids’ zone so you can also make it better with some valuable meeting plans with your close buddies.
Hobbies give you energy. It is easy to make some time for the thing you like to do. Initially, it will be difficult to find that time, but soon you will get that if you try harder.
Say Welcome to Any Help
This is the time you need help from your elders who give you valuable advice from their experiences. You can also hire domestic help and babysitters who can reduce your burden, so you can rest for a while. This is very important for a healthy and successful married and professional life.
Don’t forget to comb your hair or find out time for all the basic needs like showering and shampooing. Groom yourself too while taking care of your baby, as it will make you feel happy.These are some of the many ideas that can make your life easy and adjustable if applied wholeheartedly. So, forget the worries and start doing your work with a smile for that first cry of your baby, and yes, don’t forget to take care of yourself as well.
Disclaimer: The views, opinions and positions (including content in any form) expressed within this post are those of the author alone. The accuracy, completeness and validity of any statements made within this article are not guaranteed. We accept no liability for any errors, omissions or representations. The responsibility for intellectual property rights of this content rests with the author and any liability with regards to infringement of intellectual property rights remains with him/her.