Delivery has happened. The baby is out, and you might think that’s the end of the distressful times, of carrying the baby in your belly, end of the mood swings, the cravings and the weight issues. But let me tell you, the struggle has just begun. After all the trauma the body has undergone post-delivery, whether natural or a c-section, you have to deal with breastfeeding, sleepless nights, recuperation and postpartum depression.
Before becoming a mother, I was ignorant about a few facts; however, with responsibility comes experience. This post might help to-be-mothers, father’s and their closed ones.
1. Breastfeeding is not as natural as it may sound. There can be problems with the baby not latching or mothers not producing enough milk. I struggled for my baby to latch for the initial two months. I was persistent and one day she latched like a pro. If you want to breastfeed your baby, and things are not going the way you wanted them to, contact a lactation consultant immediately.
2. It’s not easy for every mother to cope up with breastfeeding immediately after delivery. With so much turmoil your body has gone through, breastfeeding is about round the clock feeding, extended hours of feeding, and sleepless nights.
3. A mother who breastfeeds should be supported in every possible way. Someone needs to understand that her body is still recovering. A mother needs to be there for a child which means someone close (her husband or a close relative) should take responsibility of the mother and the household chores. The mother needs to eat healthy to build and maintain her milk supply. Initially, I thought I can manage all on my own. But, this can lead to deterioration of your health, depression and extreme stress.
4. Giving formula is no crime. No mother should feel guilty and no one should accuse or doubt her for giving formula. It’s a mothers choice. She will do what is best for her child. No one knows the reason behind her starting formula and she should not be judged or be answerable to anyone.
5. Postpartum depression is real. I faced it the for initial 2 months. There is a sudden dip in hormones and a mother feels sad all the time for no reason. That’s where the father should understand and support her partner to snap out of it. Some mothers struggle and give up on everything including their baby.
6. I haven’t been able to gather much courage to feed my baby in public as I didn’t feel comfortable, but feeding in public should not raise eyebrows. That’s the baby’s food. Like we eat in public, it should be as normal to feed in public.
I hope this article helps you and your loved ones to get ready mentally. Do your best, but in doing so, don’t pressurise yourself physically, mentally and emotionally.
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