In 2013 when I had my first baby my gynec was very happy that in spite of 17 hours of labour I didn’t throw any tantrums and I was very proud of achieving a normal delivery (since it is a rare phenomenon these days). My doctor’s praise (she might have said this to every patient) made me fly in the sky as if I have completed my unfinished M Phil. When my daughter turned 3, my husband expressed the desire of having another baby and very sheepishly he said, I know you will have to go through that process of labour pain and delivery once again and I immediately said “I will never shy away from having another baby because of labour pain or delivery. I was never scared of it.” And two years later, I was expecting my second one and all I wanted this time too was a normal delivery. Eventually I had one too but the experience this time left me with only one thing “No never again.” Delivering a 4kg baby normally was a horrendous task. That labour of 4 hours did to me what 17 hours of labour in previous pregnancy could not and now I have just one thing to say “enough is enough”.
My take away from both my experiences:
1. We should never take anything for granted.
2. No two situations and cases are same.
3. We should always prepare ourselves for the worst scenario (I had gone to labour room thinking that it is going to be a cake walk).
4. Never judge anyone for things they have chosen.
5. Never judge anyone at least for the things they had no control over (C-sec for that matter).
6. Lastly, even if it was an easy task for you, do not tell your husband about it (let him stay in the feeling of how much you have gone through which is not untrue also)…
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