‘It’ll come to you naturally’ – this is the phrase that I always got to hear whenever I asked anybody about being a mother or taking care of a child. And finally the day arrived when I finally got to begin this beautiful journey of motherhood; I was so ecstatic to be a mother, the flawless mother that I always have thought I would be. But then to my surprise I found myself in a state of dilemma, struggling to handle the cranky baby, and struggling really very very hard to breastfed the baby. I was so devastated and shattered. I started to blame myself for all the problems that I was facing. I started thinking that I don’t have the right to be a mother if I didn’t know how to breastfeed a baby, if I didn’t know how to calm a cranky baby, if I didn’t know whether the baby is hungry or full, because in everyone’s opinion these things are supposed to come to you naturally when you become a mother. I felt as if there was a war going on inside me and I couldn’t share my feelings with anyone.
Then something happened one day. After putting the baby to sleep, I was just going through my Facebook news feed and I saw an ad featuring Sonali Bendre. It said – It takes a real mother to admit that “No, I don’t know everything”. After watching that short clip I found myself at ease. It felt so good and I felt like God Himself had come to rescue me from my own thoughts. At that point I knew that no, it doesn’t come to you naturally and it’s okay if you are struggling to breastfeed your baby. You will grow as a mother along with the baby. Stop blaming yourself; just love your baby and love yourself. Things will fall into place.
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