“Kids need a little help, a little hope and someone who believes in them”. I haven’t said something that we don’t already know. As a woman and a parent, I stand by what I have said.We seldom see our children being restless, and we look for ways to calm them down or to get them occupied with something. As a trainer, tutor and a mother, I often try and find various ways to keep my little one engaged. On days that both of us (my son and I) are swamped, we find it hard to follow the tiny rules of parenting.Recently, on a lazy day, when both of us had a lot of time off our daily routine, we both decided just to talk! He shared many stories of what his friends said and what he said in return. He shared stories about school, and I shared stories about work. We made funny faces at each other, made silly songs together and went into a laughter riot! We binged on biscuits and chips too. We spent some time together that was completely different than other days!Here are a few things I realised, and these lessons will be with me for a long time. These are some facts that may have been mentioned multiple times; however, I had the luxury to discover and cherish them. Read on for some simple tips to help your children get over restlessness and curb their anxiety!
1. Acknowledge Their Feelings
We often ask our children to either stop screaming and crying when they are anxious or upset. Instead, tell them that you understand that they are not feeling great and happy, and if they explain the matter calmly, you can help them feel better.
2. Limit Their Screen Time
We all know the effects of screen time on our children, which is why it is essential to find alternatives. I understand and agree; it’s always easier to hand your child a gadget. However, it’s easier to give your child a sheet of paper and some colours. You simply multiply the fun when you join them in their drawing and colouring. Plenty of activity boxes are available online that come with some great activities to keep your child busy!
3. Give Clear and Straightforward Directions
If you want your child to do something, then break down the instructions for him. Keep your sentences short and keep repeating them for your younger children to understand.
4. Let Them Observe you
Children are keen observers. If you want them to do something, you have to show it to them. Be their guide and their leader!
5. Play and Learn
Games are always fun. You can teach your children the most complicated life lessons through fun and engaging games. I remember teaching my students a script while making funny faces and standing on one leg. Most children are aural and visual learners. Puzzles, games and flash cards are all exciting ways to help them learn.
6. Let Them Feel Your Presence
Above all the mundane things our children need, they need assurance, which lets them know that there are adults who love them. They need unconditional love, support and guidance. They need to feel secure while expressing themselves. No matter how busy you are, never shush children who are trying to express themselves.
It is always easy to attend to your children’s material needs, but it’s a little difficult to attend to their emotional needs. Letting your children know that they are secure, and engaging them in activities is the best way to help them explore and build focus. Once they have developed their focus and attention skills, they will be ready to learn other life skills too!
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