Discussion about When are you planning?? A question every women hears after marriage

Arrtti Mom of a 7 yr 8 m old girl 6 years ago

I remember when I was single Every1 would ask me when I am getting married, once I was married Every1 asked when is d good news , now that i have my first baby. I have another question when is d next one?
People will ask you when, what and how, it's both of you who has to decide when to plan the baby coz it's big responsibility mentally, physically and financially.

Arrtti Mom of a 7 yr 8 m old girl 6 years ago

I remember when I was single Every1 would ask me when I am getting married, once I was married Every1 asked when is d good news , now that i have my first baby. I have another question when is d next one?
People will ask you when, what and how, it's both of you who has to decide when to plan the baby coz it's big responsibility mentally, physically and financially.

Dr. Prateeksha Ellis Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

i am a 3 months old baby boy mother so what i am sharing here is very recent. First thing first set your priorities right. The couple has to sit together and think because once a woman becomes a mother there is no time left for her to even relax after the baby and house work leave alone job.. its not a complain.. No No.. but its a fact..

Secondly. if you have in laws with you i would recommend one should ..if they plan for a baby.. do it while they are healthy and fit so they can help you.. either with baby work or house work. A help is a help whether big or small..

Initially no matter what for the first 2months most of the babies want their mothers only for everything.. so ladies of you are happily willing to commit to motherhood then only hop the train.

Patience is the key to happiness.. sometimes the baby will cry for no obvious reason or if you are late in providing him or her food they will first reject it and after some persuasion take it.. or he or she might be just sleepy.. there are lot of other reasons as well.. one should be patient and try to find the correct reason else we tend to over medicate the child thinking it is for his or her best. So not only the mother but all the family members have to be patient.

Also it is recommended strong that the age of the mother should be 30 years or less.. it will benefit the health of mother and child both.

Last but not the least .. you should be ready to shell out your savings. As diapers, formula milk, medicines, vaccines.. even though a necessity cost alot.

Take life as it comes.. but be prepared for things you know you will face eventually..
Good luck. 👍

Nandani Motwani Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

Yes, totally agree it Should be couple's choice rather than the family or society people's. Couple's r the only one who r going to take care of baby and a baby needs love, attention, patience, ample of time. So, they should be ready mentally for this decision as a baby is the most precious gift of God one can have.

saranyasivasankar Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

It's completely couples decision.. and also medically they have to be fit to go for it.. God's grace is also a key in achieving success..

nusrat Mom of 3 children 6 years ago

Its totally a very personal question.. Nobdy has the right to ask a couple wen thy are planning... Its ridiculous.. But our society ka mindset is like ki shaadi hogai toh bachy hona b bohat zarrori ha orr phly bacha toh phly hi saal ma hona zarori ha.. Fir phla hogaya toh bus dusry k pichy pad jaty ha... Dusra bacha... Dusra bacha.. 😱.... Its a couples choice whether thy want children or not.. Society cannot force the couple to have babies..

pranitha Mom of a 8 yr 10 m old girl 6 years ago

when are you planning for baby boy. then after ask for baby girl .

pallavi Mom of a 7 yr 3 m old boy 6 years ago

Not only the people force about the initial planning, they also start whining about the second baby. I just had my first baby, and already the ladies of my life have started assuming that my 4 month old son feels lonely!.. that he desperately and immediately needs a younger brother or sister!! 😂😂😂.. I have had enough share of social fun in my personal life.. now strict no, no! ..Planning a baby and his entire raising would be decided by me, no one else :)

pallavi Mom of a 7 yr 3 m old boy 6 years ago

Not only the people force about the initial planning, they also start whining about the second baby. I just had my first baby, and already the ladies of my life have started assuming that my 4 month old son feels lonely!.. that he desperately and immediately needs a younger brother or sister!! 😂😂😂.. I have had enough share of social fun in my personal life.. now strict no, no! ..Planning a baby and his entire raising would be decided by me, no one else :)

Lalita Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

baby plan kab karna h ye totally couple pe hi depend karta h is baat se me bilkul agree karti hu.but aaj ke time me boys and girls apna Carrier banane ke baad hi marriage karte h aur is process me bahut age aa jati h. jab unki Shaadi hoti h tab tak wo jo sabse perfact age hoti hai parents banne ki wo nikal jati hai..to mere according Shaadi ke ek do saal ke under hi baby plan kar lena chaiye..sahi age me baby plan karne se complication Kam aate hai..