This story is a heartfelt apology to my first child. I wish I could raise my first baby yet again the way I’m now raising my second one.
My daughter is now 4 years old and my son is 1.7 years old. Being a first-time mom, you are not aware of a lot of things and also, there are always extra suggestions that you get from a set of people around you. You get confused while taking care of your child. However, with my second baby, I am much more confident about my routine of care and food.
Now I wish I could do the same with my first child, as there are many habits she doesn’t have because she isn’t used to a particular routine right from her childhood. One example I can think of is that my second baby has gud and aate ka halwa for breakfast daily, which is an achievement for me. But my daughter doesn’t like these foods because she never used to have such a habit when she was younger. I feel bad that I didn’t do this with my daughter. My mother-in-law forced me to bottle-feed my first baby and I could not speak at the time. But when it comes to my second baby, I could stand up and say that I want my child to have more of solid foods and milk would be of second preference, which is what doctors also say.
My daughter is not healthy from within, I feel. She has not developed an interest for food whereas my boy who’s 1.7 years old only has started having food on his own using a spoon.
So this is just a wish and a apology for my 4 year-old-daughter. I wish I could get back those 4 years and pamper you with much, much more love!
This is also a message for new moms. Listen to your elders, but do what you think is right for your child. Older moms are important but today’s moms are much more educated, so there should be a balance between the decisions and advice of both when it comes to taking care of your kids!
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