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Do you find yourself negotiating with your little one often to get most of his routine things done properly? Beware of the ill effects of negotiating with your children before things take a turn for the worse!
Most times, negotiating can help you get things done in the correct manner from your kids, but negotiating too often with your little one can cause this ‘win-win situation’ to backfire on you and your child unexpectedly. If you are wondering what can be the negative consequences of negotiating with your kids, read on to find out its prominent ill effects on your kids.
1. Favours Become Habit
Often, while negotiating with your child, you may offer him his favorite toy, food, or any other thing as a favor to listen to you. Negotiating too often with your kid with favors can become a habit such that he would refuse to listen to you unless you offer him his desired object or food. If getting favors becomes a habit, you will find your child turning adamant eventually.
2. Kids Take You For Granted
Negotiation is a two-way situation where your child listens to you and follow your instructions if you agree with one of his ideas but negotiating often with your kid will eventually result in your child taking you for granted. He will start thinking that if he simply refuses to listen to you then you would pacify him and agree with his opinion.
3. Increased Expectations
The more you negotiate with your child, the more your child expects from you. So, negotiating with your kid can become damaging by making him expect more from you every time you ask him to do something. Additionally, there prevails a chance that your kid’s expectations can turn into demands and that can make your kid turn stubborn.
4. Lack of Understanding
Negotiation with kids promotes conditional approach, where your child agrees to listen to you only on a condition where you agree with one of this demands. Instead of understanding how beneficial it is to listen and follow your instructions, your kid prefers to act as you wish simply because you have agreed to one of his conditions. Thus, when you negotiate with a condition, your child never understands how your instructions are important and beneficial for him, ultimately leading to a lack of understanding in your kid.
5. Child Lacks Life Skills and Progress
Life skill is any skill which your child needs in order to live his day-to-day life efficiently. It’s far more crucial than academic skills. Negotiating with your kid often hampers his ability to develop essential life skills, as your child would look forward to listening to you only when you agree with one of his choices.