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Rogini Sudarshan Mom of a 6 yr 10 m old boy 5 years ago

hi I'm a mom of 11months baby boy, and from the beginning after delivery I always felt that my baby is never close to me. we live in joint famille but I did and do everything for him by myself from his day one bath, changing, feeding, night feeding everything by self because It something very for me natural as a mother. but till now I feel he do not react the same way with other family members. he jump and kiss Everytime he see his aunty and grandmother. (we r living in the same house) he never kissed me before, jump to me when he see me or when I cross him. I'm a house wife. one day I went to movie with my husband and came home after 6h of absent but he was like no reaction... don't care if I come or not, he continued to play. I was hospitalized after some days due to hight fever for 3 days, as I feed I ask the permission to go to home at night to feed him (Dr said ok) but he do not that much excited to see me. these 3 days I came to home when he slept and start to hospital when he still sleep in the morning but he do not search me at all, not even an excitement when I do video calls. I'm really frustrated and depressed but Im don't all the possible things to make strong bonding with my baby, but I still feel that he is not close to me as a baby could be close to his mother. I tried to discuss about this to my husband and my family who don't understand and saying I'm stupid to think this, it's my mistake to think like this, they can't understand how can I feel this, etc I don't have any one to talk everyone is judging me. but as a mother I know he is not close to me and I can feel it. I don't know what to do. pls help me

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Aishwarya Mom of 2 children 5 years ago

In reply to RasminaRamshid

how did u manage this pain. ur bany deserves ur love and even ur mothers. dont let this happen for long. try to make ur husband understand this situation. its very sad wen i heard ur story.

Hi Rasmina,
My husband understood the situation and he is trying to sort it out. Thank you so much for your concern 🙏

Palak Mom of 3 children 5 years ago

Hii. All .. This is the most dangerous phase of our lives .. so, when i was going through the phase.. a friend of mine was constantly in contact with me.. she used to listen to me .. give me time .. counsel me when i am thinking wrong... keep reminding me that its just a phase.. so, to have someone to talk to is really important and with that i guess meditation or yoga helps a lot.. it helped for me 😊

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jatin Mom of a 6 yr 7 m old boy 5 years ago

accediently i have given honey to my 7 month baby for few days .does it cause any harm

Aishwarya Mom of 2 children 5 years ago

Hi all...., i am the mother of three months old baby boy. in my 37th week of pregnancy my hubby attacked with dengue fever, n on 40th week of delivery i have undergone 27 hours of labour pain, on the day of delivery my mom attacked with viral fever....., after all these we have decided to go to my mother in laws hometown. My MIL is a typical person, she is having half knowledge n always says opposite to me. if i say right she says it is wrong n if i say something is wrong she says it is right. initially she dint allow me to feed my baby for every 2hrs, she said we have to feed only when baby cries. when i am trying to make him sleep she says let him play. now she is not allowing me to go to my moms house after 3rd month and not even allowing to go to my house and insisting my husband in the concern of baby let her stay here upto 5months. All my maternity leaves are going like this dipressed, am unable to enjoy with my baby, she z not allowing me to make him bath r dress up, applys lot of kajal into his eyes even though he cries. Finally now she z planning after maternity leave i have to leave my kid with her so she z trying seperate me from him n making habituated to her. when i take baby into arms she says keep him in cradle r on bed n let him grow. only for the sake of feeding she z allowing me to take him. Day by day i am feeling like hell with her, i am not able to get out of the situation, i have lost interest in all the worldy things, dont have any right to spend with my kid.

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anusha simhadri Mom of 2 children 5 years ago

hai..IAM the mother of twins and very happily carrying and delivered my twins but I don't have enough milk both..my mumma and grand mom also face this same problem...and brought up twins not an easy job my mom said..now IAM in my mummas house still they are 2 yrs old..I missed my partner very much..his love,his caring everything..I felt am unlucky by having twins..this throw me up in depression..am I really less potential to brought up my kids..am I lucky?or unlucky?

shweta Singhvi Mom of a 7 yr old boy 5 years ago

In reply to Dr. Anupam Garg

Hi. Don’t feel bad about anything. Your body has undergone enough to produce a new life. Keep trying to feed your baby, you are trying to do what is best for your baby. Just relax and keep trying. I am a dietitian and nutritionist, here are a few tips:
Have warm water before and after feeding, it increases milk production.
Eat a lot of green leafy vegetables
Drink ghia juice twice daily
Drink milk atleast two times daily
Eat soaked almonds and raisins
Have lotus seeds (makhane) daily
Stay hydrated throughout the day
Have 5 types of soaked magaj 2 tsp daily
Don’t be stressed, it will all be fine.

consume more Bajri roti,oats and fibre biscuits ..I faced same problem but overcome through all this eating n milk thrice a day

Poonam Meena Mom of a 6 yr 1 m old boy 5 years ago

In reply to abc

being a new mother, i was finding it very difficult to balance my life with - raising a child, doing household chores and missing my prebaby lifestyle.

Even after doing all possible things to keep it balanced, at the end of the day I got to listen - u are not able to manage your life. I was compared with the other moms.

I started feeling like I AM GOOD FOR NOTHING.

I never realized when I started rating myself at the lowest as compared to other moms. I was left all alone,completely empty from inside. I used to cry whole nights.

There was nothing left for me except my baby.

And when I had enough of all these shitty comparisions, I stopped thinking about the others.

To hell with those who think I am not a good mother, I am not a good wife, I am a mess, etc., etc.

Why are we keep proving to others our creditability?

After all, we are the one whose lives completely change after baby. We have to give up our freedom, our lifestyle, our dreams, our hobbies. And that we do happily just for those little bundle of joys - our babies.

Now, my baby is 2 and i dont give a shit to others and leaving happily with my baby.

same

abc Mom of 4 children 6 years ago

being a new mother, i was finding it very difficult to balance my life with - raising a child, doing household chores and missing my prebaby lifestyle.

Even after doing all possible things to keep it balanced, at the end of the day I got to listen - u are not able to manage your life. I was compared with the other moms.

I started feeling like I AM GOOD FOR NOTHING.

I never realized when I started rating myself at the lowest as compared to other moms. I was left all alone,completely empty from inside. I used to cry whole nights.

There was nothing left for me except my baby.

And when I had enough of all these shitty comparisions, I stopped thinking about the others.

To hell with those who think I am not a good mother, I am not a good wife, I am a mess, etc., etc.

Why are we keep proving to others our creditability?

After all, we are the one whose lives completely change after baby. We have to give up our freedom, our lifestyle, our dreams, our hobbies. And that we do happily just for those little bundle of joys - our babies.

Now, my baby is 2 and i dont give a shit to others and leaving happily with my baby.

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suvarna Mom of 3 children 5 years ago

i m having b12 deficiency i got preganant about 15 days before but i m having to much body pain and headach indigestion so should i continoue with preganancy or not

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