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Aditi Mom of a 6 yr 8 m old boy 5 years ago

In reply to Aishwarya

Hi all...., i am the mother of three months old baby boy. in my 37th week of pregnancy my hubby attacked with dengue fever, n on 40th week of delivery i have undergone 27 hours of labour pain, on the day of delivery my mom attacked with viral fever....., after all these we have decided to go to my mother in laws hometown. My MIL is a typical person, she is having half knowledge n always says opposite to me. if i say right she says it is wrong n if i say something is wrong she says it is right. initially she dint allow me to feed my baby for every 2hrs, she said we have to feed only when baby cries. when i am trying to make him sleep she says let him play. now she is not allowing me to go to my moms house after 3rd month and not even allowing to go to my house and insisting my husband in the concern of baby let her stay here upto 5months. All my maternity leaves are going like this dipressed, am unable to enjoy with my baby, she z not allowing me to make him bath r dress up, applys lot of kajal into his eyes even though he cries. Finally now she z planning after maternity leave i have to leave my kid with her so she z trying seperate me from him n making habituated to her. when i take baby into arms she says keep him in cradle r on bed n let him grow. only for the sake of feeding she z allowing me to take him. Day by day i am feeling like hell with her, i am not able to get out of the situation, i have lost interest in all the worldy things, dont have any right to spend with my kid.

My dear, sorry to hear this. It must be difficult for you. But only you can help yourself, take charge of your actions and your baby. Be firm while communicating with MIL. It is a general tendency of elderly people that they think they know more. But you need to explain her what you are doing and why. Take time out with your baby, go for a walk, spend some quality time. And talk to your partner about this. It’s important for him to understand you. All the best.

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Aditi Mom of a 6 yr 8 m old boy 5 years ago

In reply to Shilpa

i think..we all hav same problems..we should hav disscusion abt hw to overcome this..hw to get rid of this..so suggest some tips...

acc. to me ..listen some good music is vry good option

You have the best anti depressants available that is your baby. Spend some quality time with the baby. Carry the baby in a carrier or a stroller, go to a park, go shopping or get a coffee. Stop being at home all the time. Get out, get some air n sunlight.

VEILANGINI BABY Mom of a 7 yr 3 m old girl 6 years ago

This is just a taboo in the society. This really doesn't have to control your mind over anything. It is just people trying to discourage you with the motherhood. Just chill and relax and be happy when you see your cute ones lovely face😊

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Aditi Mom of a 6 yr 8 m old boy 5 years ago

In reply to Roopa

I was very excited and had lot of dreams about my upcoming joy. During my pregnancy I had noted things to do after delivery, how to spend n manage my time.. But 2 days after delivery, I started feeling low, lonely.. I felt like I'm being neglected, I won't be a good mom.. Hell lot of negative feelings.. Even when my partner try to console me, I couldn't take it positively.
Later I started telling myself, this is common after delivery..
I suggest ladies who are pregnant now to be prepared for this and be strong, you'll all come out of it with time

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Roopa Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

I was very excited and had lot of dreams about my upcoming joy. During my pregnancy I had noted things to do after delivery, how to spend n manage my time.. But 2 days after delivery, I started feeling low, lonely.. I felt like I'm being neglected, I won't be a good mom.. Hell lot of negative feelings.. Even when my partner try to console me, I couldn't take it positively.
Later I started telling myself, this is common after delivery..
I suggest ladies who are pregnant now to be prepared for this and be strong, you'll all come out of it with time

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Aditi Mom of a 6 yr 8 m old boy 5 years ago

In reply to latika

same is my case. the only difference is that my in-laws live with me and so this has become everyday thing. and my baby doesn't recognize me, she always keeps crying when with me coz from 1st day she wasn't given to me, only when she needed to feed , she was given to me.
will she ever realize who her mother is or she will get distant from me ?

Its strange how so many girls have to go through this. I dont understand why are the mothers are given their babies on certain times, whereas mothers should be keeping the baby with them. A mother should decide the schedule of the baby. Why are you even listening to others? Noone can help such women, they will have to take charge. Be firm and take stand. You created the baby, so the first right should always be of mother’s.

nidhi kumar Father of 2 children 5 years ago

after delivery i think only negative about relatives and friends full day i was thinking to fight with them obues why?please tell me something about it

PAllavi Mom of a 7 yr 8 m old boy 5 years ago

I am mother of 21 month baby. I feel lonely 😔 and empty. I think that no one loves me.i am more worried about my carriers. I am not going anywhere because of baby. I want to go outside but my hubby is always busy. I don't know what makes me happy. I am juss fade up with my life. no one is care about me. what things can I do that makes me happy? plz suggests

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Medha Bhargava Mom of 4 children 5 years ago

In reply to Rogini Sudarshan

hi I'm a mom of 11months baby boy, and from the beginning after delivery I always felt that my baby is never close to me. we live in joint famille but I did and do everything for him by myself from his day one bath, changing, feeding, night feeding everything by self because It something very for me natural as a mother. but till now I feel he do not react the same way with other family members. he jump and kiss Everytime he see his aunty and grandmother. (we r living in the same house) he never kissed me before, jump to me when he see me or when I cross him. I'm a house wife. one day I went to movie with my husband and came home after 6h of absent but he was like no reaction... don't care if I come or not, he continued to play. I was hospitalized after some days due to hight fever for 3 days, as I feed I ask the permission to go to home at night to feed him (Dr said ok) but he do not that much excited to see me. these 3 days I came to home when he slept and start to hospital when he still sleep in the morning but he do not search me at all, not even an excitement when I do video calls. I'm really frustrated and depressed but Im don't all the possible things to make strong bonding with my baby, but I still feel that he is not close to me as a baby could be close to his mother. I tried to discuss about this to my husband and my family who don't understand and saying I'm stupid to think this, it's my mistake to think like this, they can't understand how can I feel this, etc I don't have any one to talk everyone is judging me. but as a mother I know he is not close to me and I can feel it. I don't know what to do. pls help me

dear so sorry to know about your problem...i can only say stay close to ur child as much you can....play tym by you should be most....more You make him happy more he will be wid u rather than others....baaki kaam me help lo in laws se....pyaar apna do...bache pyaar mangte hain....feed aapka ho bas....baki kaam do in laws ko....pyaar tbh de paoge n by dis i feel baby will be close to u....dats how i feel....🤗

Neha Sharma Mom of a 11 yr 3 m old boy 5 years ago

This happens with every mom as there is no me time and whole day and whole night it's only baby,you must talk to your friends, take long showers,go for short and sweet drive ,you will definitely feel good .

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