Social Life vs Kids: Is It a Struggle, or Just a Test for Your Balancing Skills?

social life vs kids: is it a struggle, or just a test for your balancing skills

Has your social life changed after kids?

Well, in my case, it did take a full-stop for a few months. But then I realised that I needed to come out of this ‘trying to be perfect momma’ zone and live a life that is a balance between my needs and Pihu’s too. In the initial few months when Pihu came into our lives, living away from parents was a struggle as it was hard to find a good maa and bapu for her – it brought a pause to our own likings! After a point, I started feeling really frustrated when the only topics revolved around baby diaper brands, vaccinations, etc. It was then that I realised it’s high time I took some much-needed time-out and also gave Pihu some space.

So, we started with small house parties to see how she behaves. We created a small play space for kids where they could enjoy, under observation. The most important thing is to feed the child properly before the party begins so you won’t have to struggle with a cranky baby. We used to also make her mentally prepared whenever we were going out for a party so she would not be shocked to see too many people. We started going out for dinners where she could play around till the food came, and while we were having dinner, she was allowed screen time. I also started going out without her while she would stay home with her dad so she could overcome mommy separation anxiety.

After having kids, it’s up to you to create a balance and live for your own happiness. Trust me, you’ll always have the guilt of not being the perfect parent even when you do everything right for your child, so there’s no harm in living a little for yourself as well!

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