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rani singh Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

don't use over pills for avoiding pregnancy

I had a c section too and faced the same problem .My was a love marriage and my in laws are not staying with us but God blessed me with a very caring and loving hubby who helped me to come out of the depression.

Anchal Mom of a 7 yr 5 m old boy 6 years ago

In reply to Nidhi Singh

I have 53 days old baby boy. Everybody is so happy. My in laws take care of me and baby but still in the initial days and sometimes now also I used to feel so lonely as my baby was not sucking breast however I had enough milk. That time my in laws used to talk about my breast, shape, nipples that they are not proper and this they used to share with all other relatives. Sometime they used to get angry saying i am not producing milk only. That thing used to bring me lonelyness. The only person i still want around is my mother. Although she talks to me and calm me down over phone but still there is space in a day when i feel lonely and as if i have spoilt my life. I dont know why. I have been very particular about my weight and figure but now i have gained 15 kg and i dont know if i will loose it ever. Because after my delivery i have been eating a lot of fatty things like ghee, laddoo and too much of sweet also. Top of that my in laws force me to eat double of my eating capacity so that i will produce milk. This is leading me getting quite and not talking to anybody. I just want to be around of my mom. She is the only one i feel comfortable with but i cannot go to my place as my inlaws are not finding it correct. My husband doesn't talk to me enough as now i am focusing more on the baby. I dont know if ever again i will get my previous life or not.

Hello there, its the same story for everyone. I too felt the same few months back. But then there is always a rising sun that covers the moon. I faced this, and i only remembered one thing my gynaec told me. “Focus on your baby and rest everything will fall into place”. No matter how good you do to your baby , people will always find something or the other that will put you down. Close your ears , listen to your heart, look at your baby, play with him, smile. Talk to people around you, talk your heart out everyday dont let it sit inside of you. Mine got worst, coz i did not speak much. Take it easy on yourself, drink loads of water and feed your baby, your body will go back to normal in no time. Dont push yourself, and yes eat healthy.

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Shivani Mom of a 6 yr 2 m old 6 years ago

In reply to Shivranjani Kumar

The Key to Change is

a) Wake up early in the morning no matter how tired you are. Get some fresh air / cold face wash and drink some warm water.

b) Now take some time for yourself to think what is that you are gonna do TODAY purposefully. Think about what you like, what is that you want to achieve and plan accordingly. Note it down and just focus the whole day on that purpose.

c) You can do some yoga or exercise. It helps you focus, stop worrying, control your emotions and anger.

d) Train your mind to think about Today and stop forecasting or worrying about future. Future is safe and believe that.

e) Keep reminding yourself that you are a mom who is learning and some errors/ mistakes in the learning process is common.

f) If there is someone to take care of your child for a while, get some really deep sleep in the middle of the day for 2-3 hours. That will help you energize and give you the much needed break in a day.

Nice information dear

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Reenu Bhalla Dhody Mom of a 17 yr 1 m old boy 6 years ago

In reply to Suvarna

I got delivered 20days back,blessed with a healthy baby girl. Even though I feel I am strong as i faced so many hurdles in life, I am also suffering from PPD. Due to in- laws comments on baby skin tone and comparison of her colour complex with mine and co-sis daughter. I am really shrinking down why these ppl are much concern about colour. They don't even remember their colour while commenting. As well unknowingly I am crying thinking of there future, education,life. And fearing about her caretaking when I return to work.

Sharing this to you is that these are comon thing,we should overcome all this with our will power

Don't care about what people say. Ignore such comments and comparisons. we are not on this earth to please others. It's very common to feel low after delivery. As your body and mind are weak. Eat well and take care of yourself and your baby and let the people say what they have to say. IGNORING them is the best mantra

sindhu Mom of 4 children 6 years ago

postpartum depression.. those days r unforgettable in my life. no clue of what had happened to me after giving birth. I was just blank for few days. took so much time to overcome. more am a happy mother to a beautiful daughter.

it's just so common and give time to urself to get adjusted to the new life with a baby

Asni Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

Postpartum depression is the worst thing. I dont think the new mom should be treated. I think people around should be given some counciling about how to treat her.And kindly give importance to her feelings and give her space to adjust with the changes. dont force her to do something just to hear others say good about you.

Sanjana Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

it's happening me now since baby birth with my husband ,he is already emotion less man ha ha

Suvarna Mom of 3 children 6 years ago

I got delivered 20days back,blessed with a healthy baby girl. Even though I feel I am strong as i faced so many hurdles in life, I am also suffering from PPD. Due to in- laws comments on baby skin tone and comparison of her colour complex with mine and co-sis daughter. I am really shrinking down why these ppl are much concern about colour. They don't even remember their colour while commenting. As well unknowingly I am crying thinking of there future, education,life. And fearing about her caretaking when I return to work.

Sharing this to you is that these are comon thing,we should overcome all this with our will power

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anusha Mom of a 7 yr 3 m old girl 6 years ago

hi after my delivery my life changed my 4 months baby girl changed my life my husband get job the best company higher salary my all family members are full happy. 6 years wanting for my pregnancy ...

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