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Shikha Sinha Mom of 3 children 6 years ago

In reply to DIPTI SWAIN

hi everyone I m so unlucky because my child came out from my womb in 7 month and it was a cesarean delivery and immediately after the delivery my child had to admit in a hospital .At that time neither I could able to feed my child nor I could take care of him because I was in another hospital😢.now he is absolutely fine

God bless the baby 😘

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pallavi Mom of a 7 yr 10 m old girl 6 years ago

when you are pregnant, u r d centre of attraction .ur needs will be looked upon but mom in law guessed tha it will be a boy n forced to opt for natueal delivery but as soon as the delivery happened n it was a girl via c -section everything changed.
i wasn't an important person now.she started taunting n fight wid my hubby who already has loose temperament.i was not hving enough milk for baby as she was not latching n dis she was telling this to all her boutique customer.babywas more dependent on powder milk .thOugh she was taking care by providing food but taunts were also there as u dont greet people who come to home n dont know wat happened to son after marriage.she only was wearing old suit on my daughter's sutra function though she decided to wear sharara if it was a boy n throw lavish party.
so i decided to go to my mom place.she taught me how to tk care of baby,cleaning of bottle, feeding her, put her to sleep, give her bath n potty training n massage, change clothes,etc .
i spent 2 n half month dere n i was happy. but i used to visit dem Occassionally.
after coming back she n my hubby who was in bnglore dat time started again n passing taunts dat u r married now n hv kid y u went for so long.u should get mature. u r worthless.wat my relatives would be saying.i used to feel lonely n depressed which no body understood. now also it is going on

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Nidhi Singh Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

I have 53 days old baby boy. Everybody is so happy. My in laws take care of me and baby but still in the initial days and sometimes now also I used to feel so lonely as my baby was not sucking breast however I had enough milk. That time my in laws used to talk about my breast, shape, nipples that they are not proper and this they used to share with all other relatives. Sometime they used to get angry saying i am not producing milk only. That thing used to bring me lonelyness. The only person i still want around is my mother. Although she talks to me and calm me down over phone but still there is space in a day when i feel lonely and as if i have spoilt my life. I dont know why. I have been very particular about my weight and figure but now i have gained 15 kg and i dont know if i will loose it ever. Because after my delivery i have been eating a lot of fatty things like ghee, laddoo and too much of sweet also. Top of that my in laws force me to eat double of my eating capacity so that i will produce milk. This is leading me getting quite and not talking to anybody. I just want to be around of my mom. She is the only one i feel comfortable with but i cannot go to my place as my inlaws are not finding it correct. My husband doesn't talk to me enough as now i am focusing more on the baby. I dont know if ever again i will get my previous life or not.

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Kanchan Mani Choudhary Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

In reply to Nidhi Singh

I have 53 days old baby boy. Everybody is so happy. My in laws take care of me and baby but still in the initial days and sometimes now also I used to feel so lonely as my baby was not sucking breast however I had enough milk. That time my in laws used to talk about my breast, shape, nipples that they are not proper and this they used to share with all other relatives. Sometime they used to get angry saying i am not producing milk only. That thing used to bring me lonelyness. The only person i still want around is my mother. Although she talks to me and calm me down over phone but still there is space in a day when i feel lonely and as if i have spoilt my life. I dont know why. I have been very particular about my weight and figure but now i have gained 15 kg and i dont know if i will loose it ever. Because after my delivery i have been eating a lot of fatty things like ghee, laddoo and too much of sweet also. Top of that my in laws force me to eat double of my eating capacity so that i will produce milk. This is leading me getting quite and not talking to anybody. I just want to be around of my mom. She is the only one i feel comfortable with but i cannot go to my place as my inlaws are not finding it correct. My husband doesn't talk to me enough as now i am focusing more on the baby. I dont know if ever again i will get my previous life or not.

please do not have that much of negative thought. I know you have a lot to face. Sometimes the older generation don't realise that what they talk could embarass us, rather to say they are less sensitive to this issue. Shrug it off because nobody bothers what was spoken about you. But that doesn't mean they don't love us. This is just a generation gap. Coming to your sudden weight gain, it is obvious. In the coming months you will dedicate your entire time for the little one. It is just that you are not habitual to this lifestyle yet because motherhood is new to you. Once again i will say that every new mother has to go through this phase and this phase shall pass. Unless you love yourself , you cannot love anybody else. So be positive and be strong.

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Arpita G Guardian of 2 children 6 years ago

thanks for this topic, I feel all alone here staying with my own family,now I feel I have lots of company, but I don't get it even our mothers and other women will have passed this stage but still why don't they understand us and will blame us, I have 4 months old baby and I used to fight a lot and cry a lot till 3 months after my delivery, I dint had control over my emotion and used to feel depressed all the time because I should stay home all the time,also my own parents will only fight with me, they don't want to understand what I am going through, don't know when I'll go back to normal and when will things get better😐

Bindu Mom of a 7 yr 2 m old boy 6 years ago

In reply to kaushalya

I think I am only unlucky person as after my delivery that to cesarean ..on 11day I was told to go back to my house with husband ...and my mother said to me all these ...I just had years in my eyes she never liked my son .....after surgery I had gone into severe depression n my in-laws also did not come to see my baby till now he is 8 months now........the best part is my husband supported me alot ......I am very thankful to him .....he used to massage me,take care of me n my baby

you are not alone dear.. we share the same story. After c sec i didnt had breast engorgment.. mine is a love marriage. my inlaws didnt came to see my baby. This made my mother angry on me.. she started scolding me for marrying my husband.. since 2nd day of surgery. i went into severe depression. which badly affected my milk supply.

prati Mom of a 7 yr 6 m old girl 6 years ago

In reply to Kavita Shukla

Hi hetal.. i too went through the same.. and it continued till 2.5 months. I learnt breast feeding after 2.5 months. Thanks to lactation consulatent .. can you tell mewhich place u belong to ? I can connect u with my lactation consultant.. and plz do not stress abt all these.. only mantra to keep ur baby healthy and happy is that mother should be happy.. milk or formula comes second.. lots of hugs

Same thing happened with me.... My daughter also did not took bf and my mil said u did not feed her u r not her mother.... I cried a lot but I alert her last to don't say anything Abt feeding

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sunidhi Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

thanks for this topic after reading many of your experiences.. I am feeling that I m not alone with all these negative feelings .. i m a mother of one and half years daughter .. still I feel depressed . lost interest in most thing anxiety and other feelings goes in mind . no control on anger and emotions . even started to hate my husband . now things are going better .. thanks

Priyanka Mom of a 7 yr 4 m old girl 6 years ago

In reply to sindhu bharathi

it's been more than 4 months now my baby has born.. I had a c section.. dono if it has happened to any of u ppl.. I had gone into a different kinda depression.. I have started worrying I may have any deadly disease.. even if I have a little pain in head I think it's a serious problem.. once I check up with the doctor for a specific problem... once they say am alright.. I think of something else to worry... I dono how I should be coming out of this.. any tips ppl???

over thinking as like me.. even I was thinking like u first 4 months then I contact other mums including my mom spent more time by talking with them and my mother used to relax me.. so don't let u to be alone.. concentrate on baby contact Ur loved one distract Ur thoughts..

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