If you have recently become a mother, you would know the stampede of visitors this happy occasion can invite. Everyone who knows you wants to see this miracle that you have created and simply can’t wait to do so. And while you are the one who has managed this herculean feat, nobody really wants to know ￼how tired and stressed you are. They come to see the baby and harp on about their lives in an effort to distract you. While most visitors after birth mean no harm and really just want to participate in your joy, they can be inadvertently annoying and you may land up wishing them gone as soon as they arrive. So here are some tips to help you deal with visitors for newborn babies:
Managing New Born Baby Visitors Effectively
1. Plan the visit for each visitor
Although you can’t really escape the initial avalanche of visitors as soon as the baby is born, try to plan as many visits as possible. And try to do it even before the baby is born. While some visitors may want to come and stay, others may just want to drop in and see the baby. Spread out their visits to dates which are most manageable for you. This would also keep you in a positive state of mind when the visitors arrive.
2. Create a buffer zone
As much as you love your friends and your cousins, when you have a squealing baby in your hand, all you would want is have them gone so you could cry in peace. So stay ahead of yourself and make sure that when you have new born baby visitors, your spouse or sister or mother-in-law are there to distract them whenever you need a breather. This buffer zone could prove to be a lifesaver for you.
3. Take advantage of the situation
As long as the string of visitors is going to come, make the most out of it and take a much needed break from baby talk. Share meals with them (brought by them ofcourse!) and get them to share their life stories with you.
4. Get them to help out
Many visitors truly drop in to help out. So keep a list of tasks ready which you may need a helping hand with. Don’t hesitate with asking for help. They will feel satisfied and you will get some extra time to rest.
5. Vent out and blame it on the hormones
At times even the best planning and most patient approach may not pay off. So when your neighbour is busy bragging about a new piece of furniture or your sister is sharing her single life adventures, feel free to vent out and blame the outburst on the hormones. But make sure to do it with only those close ones who would soon forget it and love you just the same.
6. Be upfront about your schedule
Your own health and your baby’s health are your top priorities. Don’t invite visitors if it impacts you or your baby negatively. Share your schedule with visitors in advance and make them visit when it is most convenient to you.
How to deal with baby’s first visitors is something which you can only learn with experience. But don’t let that deter you from planning!