I am Divya, mother of 1 year 7 months old baby named Era. The moment I got pregnant, both my husband and I were really scared, because it was an unplanned one. Then we visited my doctor who advised us to carry the baby as it was the first one. We decided to continue the pregnancy. Only then did I begin to feel free from worries – everyday we woke up as mom-to-be and dad-to-be. But the first three months were very crucial for me as I was going through nausea and vomiting a lot. In my fifth month I had to move to my in laws-home as delivery was to be done there.
After 6 months I stopped doing household chores like cleaning, cooking and dusting as my feet used to swell up a lot, and when I did do those things I couldn’t stand for a long time. Even preparing lunch and dinner was really tough for me. And when you stop doing this, things become crucial. People around me, even my mother-in-law began to suggest that I shouldn’t stop working as it might lead me to face a C-section later, and I should work as much as I can. Blah, blah, blah. In those times I would feel angry – I am going through sleepless nights, abdomen pain, and swollen feet and people are still talking like that. Then, somehow for the sake of my health I started mopping, sitting on my feet, doing all the work I could do.
Then, finally, the ‘big day’ came. After so many problems I delivered my baby girl via C-section, and this was the end of the myth that doing household chores would cause a ‘normal’ delivery. This made me realise that people will say what they are following their entire life. Everybody has a different body, different physical abilities, so follow your heart instead of hurting yourself during this precious period. If you think you can do everything tirelessly, go for it. But if you feel that you are uncomfortable doing anything, stop immediately, because it may lead to some other problem. Follow your heart despite the shitty things people say.
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