Communicating With Your School Going Kid
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Every child is at a different level when it comes to displaying communication skills. Some children enjoy talking throughout the day, while there are others who like to keep calm and do not indulge in long conversations. However, there is not much to worry about such kids, because even as adults, some people are great speakers while others are great listeners.
Your child keeps meeting new students in school and has a growing social life, which becomes more important to them as they grow. They constantly keep picking up behaviours and communication patterns from their immediate social circle. Yet, parents remain their perennial anchors of life and the basic source of learning. So to say, parents are the primary role models for the kids. Sometimes, your child may behave like an adult, but the very next second he might behave like a toddler. It might be difficult to understand him in the first place, but you have to strive hard to understand and communicate with him, and the first step to do this is to understand all his situations.
Communicating effectively with your child is an art, that you need to master. You and your child are in different stages in life, and because of this, most of the times you both might feel the lack of understanding between each other.
How To Communicate Well with Your Children
1. Plan
Whenever you want to do any activity with your child, make sure you plan it well in advance. Children get impulsive and driven by desires, so there will be situations when the child will react in a way that you least expect at that time.
2. Find Time
Even if you are a working mother make sure you dedicate a few hours of your day exclusively for your child, it can also be a part of your family time.
3. Speak Maturely
You should make a habit of talking to your child with respect, as you would with grown-ups. This will build upon their self esteem and they will be willing to behave maturely in turn with you.
4. Be Empathetic
You have to understand their feelings before you want them to do the same. Being empathetic is the key to effective communication, and it will happen sometimes that things which do not matter to you might severely matter to your child.
5. Respond, Don’t React
You should make a habit of responding, but not reacting to your child. Before you say ‘No’ to something, you should give it a thought and try to explain the reasons behind it. Chances are, your child may fight with you, but with a little time he will be convinced with your reason.
6. Have Fun
You have to find time to do fun things together. You can use that fun time for light conversations and get to know a lot of things which your child would not like to discuss otherwise. These activities are a great time to bond with your child.
You need to make an effort and create a relationship which is open and frank and both of you have equal rights to talk. Effective communication does not mean showing authority, instead it means communicating in a way that you get to say everything without being misunderstood. Be genuinely interested in the conversations so that you spent your time delightfully with your child.
