sarthak is very cribby and doesn't listen anything.I am a working woman and not able to actually justify of giving time to him

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Unlimited screen time doesn't help the child anyway. It is important to have healthy boundaries in place,Once you have a boundary, please stay consistent. 
It is natural,appropriate for all of us to express our emotions, also the basis of being human and they are very essential. Trying to control any child will only result in fear - fear is necessary in fatal/survival settings and need not be used for everyday lives. I personally think children shouldn't be scared of their parents. 
Join Gentle Parenting India group on fb.

He's not you, and you're not who you were back then. But you are the same person who went through tough times, and now you have a chance to change it for your child. Find your vent. Do what it takes to calm you down but remember each time you try and teach your son a lesson, that he already knows it you just have to remind him. His brain cannot process emotions the way yours does. You have to connect with his need before you begin to make sense to him. When you're engulfed by your own emotions, he's going to feel it too. Speak to someone if you think that's appropriate. Write a letter to yourself, write a diary, poetry, paint , meditate, do what it takes. But find your calm. Having said that , all of us lose it somewhere along the way. We're all humans and we have emotions too. So it's okay if you're experiencing overwhelm. That's life. But be sure to repair your connection. Own up and apologize genuinely to your child, make amends and move on. Feelings are not permanent and they'll come and go, ebb and flow. What remains is your intention. If your intention is clear to you, you'll know just what to do. Hope this helps.

Have a special time of 15 minutes or half an hour to connect with your child with any activity that interests both of you, like reading or cooking or making art etc.

Now change your conditioning towards the actions that make you feel unhappy with the way he behaves..  
Everytime a triggering at occurs.. Ask yourself.. 
-Why is it bothering me so much( most of the time it's some future projection of fear attached to the person.. It actually never makes sense,  but we are conditioned to believe it true)

-What about it is bothering me.

-Is it really going to have the impact I am imagining it'll have on my child s life or my life.. 
-Is there another perspective to this..  Which can help me ease out on this expectation from the person or situation. 
Could there be a solution to find a midway between my logical need as well as the other person s logical need. 
Eg: I had a condition that every person in my family needs to do the tasks they do the way I do it..  Same way.. I ll explain a few times, but after that if they do it differently, in my head it would be wrong..  And I would get triggered.. 
These above questions made me realise.. Everyone will have their own way of doing it.. It doesn't matter how they do it.. 
Ultimately major realisation I had in this phase was..  The person and the love they hold for me is more important than any situation.. Or any act..  Nothing really matters in front of them..  
For kids their way of looking at life is different..  They want to explore everything in life..  Our concerns to protect, cleanliness could be valid..  But once we are aware of these differences.. We can create boundaries that serve their purpose as well as our purpose..  Example cleanliness is playing with messy things..  Can really trouble us..  That we solved by having a separate messy corner in balcony , whose cleaniless we didn't have to worry about whole day..  It gets cleaned once in a day..  And child was free to do what he wanted in that space.. He allowed rest of the area of home to be