#asktheexpert my 13 month baby hurt by self if we say something to him.and his weight is also only 7kg.

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It sounds like you're concerned about two things with your 13-month-old baby: self-harming behavior and low weight. Let’s address both concerns:

1. Self-Harming Behavior

At 13 months, some babies may express frustration or strong emotions in physical ways, including hitting themselves. Here’s what might be happening and how to handle it:

Possible Reasons:

Frustration or Inability to Communicate: At this age, babies are still learning how to communicate their needs and emotions. If they can’t express themselves with words, they might act out physically.

Seeking Attention: Some children may hurt themselves to get a reaction from their caregivers.

Exploring Sensations: Babies explore their bodies and may hurt themselves out of curiosity.

What You Can Do:

Stay Calm: If your baby hurts himself, try not to react dramatically, as this may encourage the behavior.

Redirect Attention: Gently guide your baby’s attention to something else, like a toy or activity, to distract from the self-harm.

Encourage Positive Expression: Help your baby express emotions in healthy ways, such as through words, pointing, or playing.

Offer Comfort: If the behavior seems related to frustration, offer comfort and reassurance.

Teach Simple Words: Encourage your baby to express frustration using simple words like "no," "stop," or "help."

If this behavior continues or worsens, it’s a good idea to speak to your pediatrician, as they can provide additional strategies or check for underlying issues.

2. Low Weight (7 kg at 13 Months)

At 13 months, the average weight for boys is typically around 9-11 kg, but every child grows at their own pace. However, if your baby’s weight is significantly below average, it’s important to ensure they’re getting the right nutrition.

Possible Causes of Low Weight:

Feeding Difficulties: Your baby may not be eating enough or may be a picky eater.

Medical Issues: Conditions like food allergies, reflux, or malabsorption can affect weight gain.

High Activity Level: If your baby is very active, they might burn more calories than they consume.

What You Can Do:

Offer High-Calorie Foods: Add calorie-dense and nutrient-rich foods to their diet, such as:

Avocados

Full-fat yogurt and cheese

Mashed bananas

Eggs

Nut butters (smooth and spread thinly for safety)

Olive oil or ghee in purees or food

Small, Frequent Meals: Instead of three large meals, try offering 5-6 smaller meals throughout the day.

Finger Foods: At this age, babies enjoy self-feeding. Offer a variety of soft finger foods that are easy to eat and calorie-rich.

Monitor Fluid Intake: Too much milk or juice can reduce appetite for solid foods. Limit milk to 500-700 ml per day and avoid filling up on juice.

When to See a Doctor:

If your baby is not gaining weight over a few months.

If they seem lethargic or show signs of malnutrition (such as dry skin, hair loss, or delayed milestones).

If you’re concerned about feeding habits or food intake.

A pediatrician can assess your baby’s growth and offer specific guidance, including the possibility of nutritional supplements if needed.