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GENDER INEQUALITY Gender Bias in Parenting
Boy V/S Girl
A Boy Child or a Girl Child have been treated differently since ages. A desire of having a 'Son' rather than a 'Daughter' is still there in most parts of the country.Does it really matter for you? Why do you think our society has this preference for having Son rather than Daughter?
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Sameer Singh Father of 3 children 5 years ago
"It's human nature," if i put it simply. It started in the Stone Age: "A family without sons, whose job was to hunt and keep everyone fed, might not have survived. So offerings were made to the gods, and soothsayers were consulted. People passed on to the next generation the methods they considered most effective for guaranteeing a boy, and this inspired old wives' tales."

However, this is disgusting that such beliefs are still prevalent when we have such strong girls in every field of life. I totally beleive that it shouldn't matter which gender the child is, but we should make sure to raise them in such a manner that they should be self sufficient and smart enough to deal with the world.

My 7 year old boy makes such round chappatis out his own choice of learning. None of us in our house ever told him till date that pink is for girls, and boys don't cry. On the other hand my daughter plays with cars and buzz lightyear and we never thought of buying her a doll till date. we are trying to raise them in a gender neutral environment at home. I hope this helps them in the future.
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subhash adware Guardian of 4 children 5 years ago
i believe that both the genders have their significance to propogate life but non of them are secondarily important, both are as important as either. You may understand it as if the m/f ratio goes down the Earth's stability may lost. If male are masculine, protective then the females are delicate, beautiful still caring and protecting the loved once.
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daraksha khan Mom of 7 children 5 years ago
I believe pregnancy lasts for the same duration either you have a boy or a girl.

you take same medications.

you go through the same checkups

same amount of labour pain

after the baby is born you put in same efforts to take care of them

so having a baby girl or boy was not my priority neither was my families priority. All we needed was a healthy baby infact we bought a hairband and a pink dress as a babies first outfit and we felt a bit disappointed seeing a girl.

if it had been a girl I feel we all would have loved her a bit more
Payal Mom of 3 children 5 years ago
baby girl or baby boy both are equal and they both are god's gifts
Mansi Jain Mom of 2 children 5 years ago
No gender does not matter at all children are gift of god.
deepika vinay tank Mom of 2 children 5 years ago
no i dont think its base on your maintality
sukanya s Mom of a 6 yr 2 m old girl 5 years ago
In reply to Mini Patiyal
yes there is discrimination. though in educated families as well but they couldn't say it openly. but whenever they bless you they say soon u will be blessed with a son. so how it can be change. the change could only be brought by ladies only. bcz it's only lady, being a lady, lady still prefers first child be a boy not female baby. I won't say boys are not wanted. The thing is, its natural whatever it is just welcome with open heart. though my first child is also a boy and I really love him alot. the thought could only be change if be make our daughters so independent that they become the helping hands of their parents. And they could take care of themselves at any point of time. than only the change would come. thanks
well said
Vrinda Guardian of 3 children 5 years ago
my oersonal experience it matters in educated families too. not to the new parents. but to their families it matter hellalot. we had a boy recently, our first child, even the first child in family(i live in a joint family) after complications . me and my husband, we both are doctors , his parents are educated too. but erest of the family not so much. in our family matter was he s boy. and that is a causr of tension. as my husband is youngest in family. and he has a boy. the elder one dont have a baby yet. so not only girls are being discriminated if u look in to so much respectful society u will find boy too are discriminated
Richa Dawar Nanda Mom of 3 children 5 years ago
Yes there is discrimination in our society but no matters u have boy or girl because in today's time having a child is more important. some people are facing so many problems in having kid so i guess just pray to God for kid either boy or girl God wish
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Saleema Surayya Mom of 5 children 5 years ago
I want baby girl
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