Discussion about What is expected from a 'Sanskari Bahu'?

BILLU NAGAL Guardian of a 9 yr 7 m old boy 5 years ago

pyar

To be passionate in both personal life and career.
teaching our childrens about the value of life for there future change.

kiran bhandari Mom of 4 children 5 years ago

khud Ki side se koi glti mat karo or khhush raho

Dhanashree Abhinandan Narvekar Mom of a 6 yr old boy 5 years ago

sanakar is totally different term. The so called sanskari people can also be inhuman. then what's the use of such sanskari ? sanskari or nonsanskari I don't want, I expect the real human future bahu for my Son.

Kovagapu vamakshi Mom of a 7 yr old girl 5 years ago

maintain balance between office work and home work

Ankita Jani Guardian of 2 children 5 years ago

only focus on your happiness .
ek hi mantra hai life ka
give respect get respect.
love your baby.

Geeta Malhotra Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

In reply to Gousia Jawad

the absolute truth...😆

true

meenakshi Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

In reply to Nidhi Singh

Every girl thinks she will be an ideal Bahu to their in laws and so in my case. But in laws should also treat you the same way. No matter how much you do there will be something always lacking from your side to them that you missed to fulfill. In my case i have been getting taunts about my family's background as they are not rich and did not meet my in laws expectation in wedding like why my mother didn't give me TV Sofa Washing machine in my wedding whereas she had managed to do everything and my in laws always said they want nothing from us before marriage. I am happy that my husband is so supportive and have been stopping people from saying that. My in laws wanted me to give my salary to them whereas they dont ask their Sons for salary. My in laws should be happy that they dont have to bear my expenses but it doesn't work. I live in a joint family so there are 10 people who live together including me and 19 people are scattered in Pune and UP. Since the family is big the gossip is more. I have two months old baby but i do all the kitchen work along with floor mopping washing clothes and would resume my job again after 6 months. But in laws never could be happy because: 1) I dont give my salary 2) I wont be able to do household work because of office. After all this "the dominance" of father in law who doesnt let me go to my mothers place. He wants me to take his permissiong before going out let it be whoever i am going with, not even my husband i can go without his permission. So we leave without asking him. But once we are back home he yells at us. And if it is long trip then i must have to take his consent. All this things are killing me inside and so i dont feel them as my people. The difference is created by them.

exactly same is the case with me..my mother in law yells at all of us and passes taunts directly or indirectly which is very irritating...she is dam negative and greedy lady..she was expecting a boy..but iam a mother of an angel...so she showed her real face jus after my angel's birth..i hate her...she is the dominating person in the family

Nidhi Singh Mom of 2 children 7 years ago

Every girl thinks she will be an ideal Bahu to their in laws and so in my case. But in laws should also treat you the same way. No matter how much you do there will be something always lacking from your side to them that you missed to fulfill. In my case i have been getting taunts about my family's background as they are not rich and did not meet my in laws expectation in wedding like why my mother didn't give me TV Sofa Washing machine in my wedding whereas she had managed to do everything and my in laws always said they want nothing from us before marriage. I am happy that my husband is so supportive and have been stopping people from saying that. My in laws wanted me to give my salary to them whereas they dont ask their Sons for salary. My in laws should be happy that they dont have to bear my expenses but it doesn't work. I live in a joint family so there are 10 people who live together including me and 19 people are scattered in Pune and UP. Since the family is big the gossip is more. I have two months old baby but i do all the kitchen work along with floor mopping washing clothes and would resume my job again after 6 months. But in laws never could be happy because: 1) I dont give my salary 2) I wont be able to do household work because of office. After all this "the dominance" of father in law who doesnt let me go to my mothers place. He wants me to take his permissiong before going out let it be whoever i am going with, not even my husband i can go without his permission. So we leave without asking him. But once we are back home he yells at us. And if it is long trip then i must have to take his consent. All this things are killing me inside and so i dont feel them as my people. The difference is created by them.

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PRIYANKA PARIDA Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

one word- "show off " 😉