What Husbands Give and What Wives Want – the Real Trauma of Today’s Life

By Nidhi | Updated: 18/09/2019

A daughter lives with her parents from birth until she gets married. She is born and brought up with immense love and care, so that is what she carries in her mind and heart. She comes to the stage where it becomes almost impossible for her to live without them. But according to tradition, she is supposed to get married, where she will have to leave her parents. She married a man who was very nice, humble, honest, down-to-earth, and extremely caring about her.

Now comes the twist.

A girl feels that she sacrificed everything for a man, so he has to be humble, nice, caring, etc. But the man wonders why she isn’t happy, in spite of everything he’s doing for her.

I feel that it’s not important what you are doing for another person, without any knowledge of what they actually want. The important thing is to first understand what the other person wants from you, and then do the needful to keep them happy,

What do you think?

If I talk about my personal experience I am very lucky to get the kind of husband who silently takes cares of my daughter and me. But what I feel is that it’s not enough for me to live my life with pure happiness, because I am supposed to manage my whole family and to take care of them. So in some or the other way, I used to start expecting the same from him, for my family, my parents, my siblings, etc.

So am I wrong?

Is it my mistake that I am a girl and I am supposed to behave, feel, and manage everything according to my customs and religion? When it comes to my parents’ well-being and happiness, who else can I talk to? Please advise!

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