Discussion about Is it time to break stereotypes?

Himani Tewari Mom of a 7 yr 1 m old boy 6 years ago

A mom is a mom be it working or stay at home. she needs juggle between so many thing. if she is working then it's between her family and work ( some might get the help from family member or higher a care taker). If she is a stay at home mom then she needs to take care of her family, having said it is tedious task. Doing every bit of the baby, taking care of everyone and their needs.
It's not fair to say who is a better one or does the job better. Like I said a mom is a mom.
I took leave from my job as I got the news that I was expecting now my kiddo is four months and I still have no plans of joining. I miss my work but I enjoy more with my baby and know he needs me more than I need my job.
Everyone has their priorities set in lives. Be it a working mom or a stay at home mom.. mom is a mom and the always rock😉😍

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Mano Mom of 4 children 6 years ago

In reply to Vasudha L

Everything is subjective. There is nothing called best option. Working women may have satisfaction of having better financial condition ( a lot of times, people may work because there are no other options due to financial commitment) with guilt of not having enough time with the child. Stay home mom's may get time to be with the baby and enjoy every new change in the growing baby each day ( This also may or may not be a choice) and no time for self. Both ways we women gain something and lose something. I quit job when I was pregnant. I am taking a break to enjoy the time with my baby. I believe in being in the moment and enjoy the time I get with the baby. It's not right to compare and judge working and stay home mom's. They are just MOTHERS having different path set in their life.

great thought shared..

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Dona Mom of a 8 yr 6 m old boy 7 years ago

I was working before and resigned my job after getting pregnant. So I can understand the difference of working and home maker mom. I think home mom is good for family, it's good for your husband and child. Babies need care of moms in their childhood and getting more attached with your baby.Husband will be more happy if you are spending more time with family and kids. He can easily go and get his work done without any worry. As a home mom, you can be with your babies more time and you can watch every single minutes that's the baby is growing.but the problem is you will not get any time for yourself even if you want to be in toilet😊.

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Suvarna Mom of 3 children 6 years ago

Very useful topic for all moms of this generation.
In my point of view stay at home mom is not at all good idea ... If u are capable to handle office n work during Ur pregnancy why can't we handle work after delivery and why other family members expect us to give up our career and what example we can give to our kids in future"Beta you study hard now and in future if u get a baby u should stop all career education etc and takecare of baby only"If required we can extend our leaves for some months and start working as normal.
Being a women we are having inborn talent where we can handle baby n work n home work. Right now I feel proud being a new mom of 8months baby,a full time working mom where I handle baby n office work together happily. Somehow I feel tired but with support of my hubby I am balancing both....

Ladies please come out of all stereotypes and stupid suggestion of others. No issues if u work until unless u have a confidence that u can balance all

shalini vardhan Mom of a 7 yr 3 m old boy 6 years ago

In reply to Kanchan Mani Choudhary

The question is did I waste my education?
When someone asks me am I working somewhere I find myself proudly saying, “Yes, I am a full time working mother.”
The pride of my new role didn’t come overnight, but grew as my boy grew. I came to understand everything this new role entailed, and the complexity of it. Now, three years into my new life as a stay-at-home mother, I’m here to say with pride that no, no I didn’t waste anything. Being able to stay at home with my children is a privilege that I don’t take for granted. And though it’s exhausting, it’s even more rewarding to watch my son grow into intelligent and compassionate little man.
Instead of getting a “good job” from our kids, we get meltdowns. But don’t miss the moment that will change how you feel about being a stay-at-home mother. Whether it’s when your child spells a word for the first time or walks up to you and says, “I love you, mommy,” there will be a moment that will lift the shame that others have placed on us. That’s the moment you’ll realize that all of the hard work will be more than worth it, and you’ll be proud to call yourself a stay-at-home mom, changing the small corner of your world.
Ladies, I want you to know you’re doing an amazing job, with such meaning and purpose in what you do. You are helping to raise the next generation, one that will embody the values you teach and reflect these values in all that they do.

Very well said mom... 👍

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Dr. Akanksha Chikhlikar Mom of 3 children 6 years ago

In reply to Kanchan Mani Choudhary

The question is did I waste my education?
When someone asks me am I working somewhere I find myself proudly saying, “Yes, I am a full time working mother.”
The pride of my new role didn’t come overnight, but grew as my boy grew. I came to understand everything this new role entailed, and the complexity of it. Now, three years into my new life as a stay-at-home mother, I’m here to say with pride that no, no I didn’t waste anything. Being able to stay at home with my children is a privilege that I don’t take for granted. And though it’s exhausting, it’s even more rewarding to watch my son grow into intelligent and compassionate little man.
Instead of getting a “good job” from our kids, we get meltdowns. But don’t miss the moment that will change how you feel about being a stay-at-home mother. Whether it’s when your child spells a word for the first time or walks up to you and says, “I love you, mommy,” there will be a moment that will lift the shame that others have placed on us. That’s the moment you’ll realize that all of the hard work will be more than worth it, and you’ll be proud to call yourself a stay-at-home mom, changing the small corner of your world.
Ladies, I want you to know you’re doing an amazing job, with such meaning and purpose in what you do. You are helping to raise the next generation, one that will embody the values you teach and reflect these values in all that they do.

very true and well said... actually motivating for new working mom's... thanks

Varsha Satpute Mom of a 7 yr 11 m old boy 6 years ago

Not all like that even stay at home Moms has so much of work

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Jiya Father of 2 children 6 years ago

In reply to Kanchan Mani Choudhary

The question is did I waste my education?
When someone asks me am I working somewhere I find myself proudly saying, “Yes, I am a full time working mother.”
The pride of my new role didn’t come overnight, but grew as my boy grew. I came to understand everything this new role entailed, and the complexity of it. Now, three years into my new life as a stay-at-home mother, I’m here to say with pride that no, no I didn’t waste anything. Being able to stay at home with my children is a privilege that I don’t take for granted. And though it’s exhausting, it’s even more rewarding to watch my son grow into intelligent and compassionate little man.
Instead of getting a “good job” from our kids, we get meltdowns. But don’t miss the moment that will change how you feel about being a stay-at-home mother. Whether it’s when your child spells a word for the first time or walks up to you and says, “I love you, mommy,” there will be a moment that will lift the shame that others have placed on us. That’s the moment you’ll realize that all of the hard work will be more than worth it, and you’ll be proud to call yourself a stay-at-home mom, changing the small corner of your world.
Ladies, I want you to know you’re doing an amazing job, with such meaning and purpose in what you do. You are helping to raise the next generation, one that will embody the values you teach and reflect these values in all that they do.

well said dear

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Shruti Shukla Mom of 2 children 6 years ago

Both situations have some pros and cons. If you are a working mom, it's necessary that someone will be taking care of your baby at home which means you can't give your full time to your baby. And maybe after reaching home you will be engaged in household chores. But at the same you are focusing on your career and earning money. So basically you are working and doing house work too. Where as if you are stay at home mom and taking care of your baby, you are still doing full time household chores. Not earning money but giving your full time to your child and family. Staying at home gives you more responsibility for your family than working outside.
I think focusing on your career and earning a living is very important but looking after your family and taking care of your baby in his/her early age will definitely be the most important thing.

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Varsha Satpute Mom of a 7 yr 11 m old boy 6 years ago

Not all like that even stay at home Moms has so much of work