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Are we Over-Pampering our babies?

Garima singh Mom of 2 children 7 months ago
with time everything changes, when I was kid, my mom usually busy with daily household work, so i didn't get too much time to learn new things at home.
but when I became a mom, I give my most of the time to my baby, sometimes I compromise wid my work also.
today in age of 2year, my baby learnt most of the nursery rhymes, numbers, colors, alphabet, animals, vegetables and fruits name... and she enjoy to learn all these things.
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Prajkta S More Mom of a 2 yr 6 m old boy 2 years ago
yes today's parenting is absolutely different from earlier. As per me as a new mom I wanted my baby to be smart enough and I try to teach him very interestingly, while earlier parents use to focus on other daily work more than their children and they were not even worried about upbringing of child bcos the families earlier were joint family where children used to learn by themselves looking to their siblings. But now in the neutral family children don't have any reference likes siblings and other members from whom they can learn well so it's the need for today's parents to teach their children right from small things to make their own decisions. We being a today's parents are not wrong in parenting as everyone says we are overprotective, we are not overprotective we just try to teach our children in a different way and I think it's the need of today's generation bcos its a digital world and our children will use mobiles, laptops etc. but as a parent we need to restrict the time to use the devices and make our children to play with other things or else children won't get physically strong.
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Shweta Mom of 2 children 2 years ago
In reply to Manahel fahad
hi everyone meri beti 2 saal ki hai or wo ziddi hoti jarahi hai like usne ager kuch manga hai to wo foran miljae otherwise aas paas rakhi hui cheezein phekne lagti hai or roti hai. jab wo cheez usko dedo to bhi kuch minutes lagte hain usko normal hone mein. plz koi suggest kere k aesi situation mein baby ko kese handle kere
when she start throwing tantrums don't give her what she demands, just keep urself cool , smile and hold her in ur arms.make her sit and talk to her..nything that can divert her attention...don't get angry or don't scold her..keep talking and she will be fine soon..bt no matter what don't fullfil her demand...this is a tried and tested way...my girl is 3 and it is working fine with her...I can c an improvement in her
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Sabiha Yusuff Mom of 2 children 3 years ago
Pampering.. I wouldn't say so..
to pen it out the right way
90's
too many kids
learned sharing and caring on own
sand was their toy, ground their place
guests were can come anytime.. and kids used to get happy
everything they need they had to work hard for it
kids didn't knew the value of money
streets were safe
20's
one or two kids mostly
have to be thought sharing and caring
sand is part of studies and mobile is the toy, and their bed their place
guests come rarely and why they come is the child's worry
whatever is their need is been fulfilled before they could even think of it
kids value money and want as pocket money
streets. even house don't seem safe

now since all of this being a factor pampering won't be the right thing to say.. kid those days didn't need attention they had their siblings many siblings to share with or speak out their heart with.. but kids these days inorder to speak out their heart with us need to be assured we are their friends and Wil take whatever you say in a positive note. the fear of the child falling into wrong company is what creates a worrisome parent.. they don't pamper they just try to make sure they teach them what they have learnt.. they just try to make sure the child knows their love and affection for them. they just want to guide the child and assure themselves they are fulfilling the child's needs..
it is not pampering it's just an insecure parent wanting the good for their child.. some succeed some don't.. some can't control their insecurities try to keep their child for themselves and to secure them put them in a cocoon and make it difficult for the child at later stage.. and in scenarios the child learning a parent's insecurities take advantage of it..
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Dharini Kotadia Mom of a 6 m old boy 6 months ago
of course it is different, the time when we were kids has literally changed. we used to be in joint families. parents were also busy with their house hold work and responsibilities. we used to learn moral values from family members itself. and used to get intellctual from school and outer world.
now a days children get all the intellctual things like smart TVs, mobiles, computers at home. so parents do face a challenge balancing children between real and virtual world, etc. keeping a balance between pampering and over pampering can also be a challenge. parents also need to watch out for it as over pampering is never advisable.
khan Guardian of 2 children 6 months ago
As education system is advanced ... Our way of upbringing, parenting our child also get advanced...
Manisha R Kavi Mom of a 7 yr 5 m old boy 6 months ago
yes because of only 1 or 2 kids now a days only one this is the reason for over care and pampering but we should not we should raise them to be independent it will be helpful to them in their life
archana Mom of a 2 yr 9 m old boy 7 months ago
yes i think parenting was different earlier .it was simple ,easy going but now we are over protective, want to pamper our child in every way ,we should teach them.to have patience ,wait for the right time for some things etc .
Dhivi Eas Mom of a 1 yr 6 m old girl 9 months ago
I thought that our child would be better than us....so they will pamper us... 😍
Esther Murry Mom of a 1 yr 8 m old girl 9 months ago
I would protect my child in any way as much as possible, no matter what.
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