nidhi Bhasin gulati
Mom of 2 children
7 years ago
Hit Desai
Guardian of a 8 yr 7 m old boy
7 years ago
Abdul Rawoof
Father of 3 children
7 years ago
Dr Dilip Vaishnav
Father of 4 children
7 years ago
kanchan Nayak
Mom of a 9 yr 4 m old girl
7 years ago
Meena Sirsat
Trying To Conceive
7 years ago
The fact that the lady has spent a significant part of her life raising her son may make her a little sensitive when another person becomes the centre of attraction of her son’s life.
Though most mothers do not consider her daughter-in-law competition, there are some mothers who do. If, for example, your mother-in-law mentions how much her son always liked her home cooking, do not try to compete by asserting how much he likes your cooking now. This would invariably hurt her.
Treat your mother-in-law with respect. Consider her older and wiser. She may have been through a lot of hardships in her life. In fact, talk to her and ask her about her childhood, growing up, raising kids, and life experiences. When she shares her life with you she will develop a liking for you and that can lead to a strong bond between the two of you.
Getting to know the family you have married into may take time. Though most daughters-in-law are welcomed into the family with open arms, do not get disheartened if it does not happen. Give them time to know you better.
Your mother-in-law has years of experience. Don’t hesitate to take her advice. You may disagree with her and decide to not follow any of her suggestions, but be open to different ideas, at least listen, show respect, and do not take any advice as a personal attack. She is only trying to be helpful.
Love her and love will come back to you.