Reply to seema k
Hi seema, I will say just don\'t bear something for someone who is not worth it. You care for your baby but once she will grow and come to know what you suffered from she will never be happy and afterall if your husband loves you truly and respects you than going through all misbehaviors is worth otherwise there\'s always a choice to respect oneself.
Hi seema, I will say just don't bear something for someone who is not worth it. You care for your baby but once she will grow and come to know what you suffered from she will never be happy and afterall if your husband loves you truly and respects you than going through all misbehaviors is worth otherwise there's always a choice to respect oneself.
I don\'t want to blame or suggest anything to any married couples & their kids, but want to share my views. I think living with your in-laws peacefully is the biggest dream of any lady. But most of the time their are very different thoughts, opinions,choices, hobbies, likes & dislikes among 2 parties(in-laws & their daughter or soninlaw). Don\'t force your husband to stay away from his parents. If he wants himself & in-laws also agree to same with mutual agreement,then it\'s ok to stay at different accomodation but near location. Elderlies have lots of insecurities & hesitation to talk about it, so they sometimes behave abruptly. But we should forget & make a balance between different age groups. Nobody should allow physical,social or psychological harm their elderly in-laws. Some In-laws don\'t know or want to adjust, then stay away from them, but don\'t make a daily fight or argument sessions with them.
I don't want to blame or suggest anything to any married couples & their kids, but want to share my views. I think living with your in-laws peacefully is the biggest dream of any lady. But most of the time their are very different thoughts, opinions,choices, hobbies, likes & dislikes among 2 parties(in-laws & their daughter or soninlaw). Don't force your husband to stay away from his parents. If he wants himself & in-laws also agree to same with mutual agreement,then it's ok to stay at different accomodation but near location. Elderlies have lots of insecurities & hesitation to talk about it, so they sometimes behave abruptly. But we should forget & make a balance between different age groups. Nobody should allow physical,social or psychological harm their elderly in-laws. Some In-laws don't know or want to adjust, then stay away from them, but don't make a daily fight or argument sessions with them.
There alot of issues we r still facing in our home cz inlaws r nt easily satisfied with their bahus..each n everytime they create mess n arguing with bahu especially in front of their hubby..shows their attitude. , ego n double standards..it dint understand tht why saas n bahu nt becoming mother n daughter or good friends..it dnt think ths will change..it remains forever
There alot of issues we r still facing in our home cz inlaws r nt easily satisfied with their bahus..each n everytime they create mess n arguing with bahu especially in front of their hubby..shows their attitude. , ego n double standards..it dint understand tht why saas n bahu nt becoming mother n daughter or good friends..it dnt think ths will change..it remains forever
can not generalise but for me it\'s a nightmare and torturous experience. Really hard and I won\'t say it\'s anybody\'s fault. Different mentalities and thinking are the main reason. Though there is another one which is interference.
can not generalise but for me it's a nightmare and torturous experience. Really hard and I won't say it's anybody's fault. Different mentalities and thinking are the main reason. Though there is another one which is interference.
A joint family is a good thing but overbearing parents are not.
What I have experienced is that in laws specially mother in laws find it really difficult to accept their daughter-in-laws,life is difficult as it is for them since they have left their home n family to live in a new one .. the unacceptimg parents can make it so much worse. I agree that not all in laws are bad sometimes daughter-in-laws are bad too but mostly it’s that former.
A joint family is a good thing but overbearing parents are not.
What I have experienced is that in laws specially mother in laws find it really difficult to accept their daughter-in-laws,life is difficult as it is for them since they have left their home n family to live in a new one .. the unacceptimg parents can make it so much worse. I agree that not all in laws are bad sometimes daughter-in-laws are bad too but mostly it’s that former.
living separate and with in laws , actually we can\'t decide because every one\'s life is different because in some situations husband will be good than inlaws and in some situations husband is bad and in laws needed to correct them and inlaws also needed in some situations like pregnancy because in Indian traditions function will be there for pregnants which gives some kind of happiness in that situation,and for our kids family is needed than growing lonely.
living separate and with in laws , actually we can't decide because every one's life is different because in some situations husband will be good than inlaws and in some situations husband is bad and in laws needed to correct them and inlaws also needed in some situations like pregnancy because in Indian traditions function will be there for pregnants which gives some kind of happiness in that situation,and for our kids family is needed than growing lonely.
Hi seema, I will say just don't bear something for someone who is not worth it. You care for your baby but once she will grow and come to know what you suffered from she will never be happy and afterall if your husband loves you truly and respects you than going through all misbehaviors is worth otherwise there's always a choice to respect oneself.
What I have experienced is that in laws specially mother in laws find it really difficult to accept their daughter-in-laws,life is difficult as it is for them since they have left their home n family to live in a new one .. the unacceptimg parents can make it so much worse. I agree that not all in laws are bad sometimes daughter-in-laws are bad too but mostly it’s that former.
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