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Meenakshi Guardian of a 3 yr 9 m old girl 4 months ago
We need to know that this type of feeling is absolutely ok,no worries,take it easy, take care of baby,think what better you can do for baby n yourself.its worth
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Monika Choudhary Guardian of a 3 yr 2 m old girl 5 months ago
In reply to Shivani soni
Hiii.. mujhe girl hui hai.. Or mere in- laws ise happy nhi hai.. kyu ki unhe.. boy chahiye tha.. to isme me kya kr skti hu... or after delivery me bhut lonely😔 feel krne lgi hu.. me khush rehne ki koshish bhi krti hu.. but phir bhi nhi ho pata... or mere husband bhi mujhpe dhyan nhi dete... bs wo apne kam me busy hai... to kya ye meri thinking hai.. jo mujhe aesa lgta hai.. plz Sujuset me..
divert ur mind take rest and do meditation
Shivani soni Mom of a 2 yr 9 m old girl 2 years ago
Hiii.. mujhe girl hui hai.. Or mere in- laws ise happy nhi hai.. kyu ki unhe.. boy chahiye tha.. to isme me kya kr skti hu... or after delivery me bhut lonely😔 feel krne lgi hu.. me khush rehne ki koshish bhi krti hu.. but phir bhi nhi ho pata... or mere husband bhi mujhpe dhyan nhi dete... bs wo apne kam me busy hai... to kya ye meri thinking hai.. jo mujhe aesa lgta hai.. plz Sujuset me..
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PAllavi Mom of a 4 yr 4 m old boy 2 years ago
In reply to PAllavi
hi aish, I am suffering same problem like ur in-laws behavior. but now I am doing what makes me happy n my child also. there is lots argue between me n my in-laws. but now I am able to handle all situations. I am mother of 21 month child. I know what is wrong and what is right for my child. there is lots of problems started but being a mother give first preference to ur child not other. u r the not entertainment box to happy all the members of ur family. so spend as much as quality time with ur child. plz take care of ur child n u also
thnx dear for your lovely suggestion...
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Deepika Mom of a 10 m old boy 5 months ago
can ananyone tell me about the sign and symptoms of depression after delivery.
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Pinky Mom of a 2 yr 4 m old girl 1 Year ago
i hv also faced post delivery depression.. after my delivery everything was going well as my mother was with me after delivery she stayed with me for few days . the day she arrived for home that day evening my MIL fell on the porch and got fracture and my husband got chicken pox . I was the only one who was handling the baby .. as the new born baby sleep whole day and cries whole night I was having C-section delivery so it was very difficult for me to handle the baby alone ... I told my husband to leave me to my mother's place but starting he shouted at me told me so many things... which I can never forget in my whole life... after few days I went to my mother's place... my Mil is a very lazy women and her lazzynesz is to that extent which I cannot describe in words ... being a women she doesn't know how to cook... my husband always support his mother over me every time in my pregnancy also she has never ever helped me.. during my 7 month I was having cramps in my legs I was unable to walk also... still I managed to cook food any how... she never helped me...after coming to my mother's place she never called me one day also to know about my health or my daughter health ..all this behaviour of her and her son I cannot forget in my lifetime... but now I have also learn how to ignore things... bcoz my only priority of my life is my daughter ...... she is everything for me...I feel I don't need anyone except her...
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Hemlata Mom of a 3 yr 3 m old girl 1 Year ago
In reply to Pinky
i hv also faced post delivery depression.. after my delivery everything was going well as my mother was with me after delivery she stayed with me for few days . the day she arrived for home that day evening my MIL fell on the porch and got fracture and my husband got chicken pox . I was the only one who was handling the baby .. as the new born baby sleep whole day and cries whole night I was having C-section delivery so it was very difficult for me to handle the baby alone ... I told my husband to leave me to my mother's place but starting he shouted at me told me so many things... which I can never forget in my whole life... after few days I went to my mother's place... my Mil is a very lazy women and her lazzynesz is to that extent which I cannot describe in words ... being a women she doesn't know how to cook... my husband always support his mother over me every time in my pregnancy also she has never ever helped me.. during my 7 month I was having cramps in my legs I was unable to walk also... still I managed to cook food any how... she never helped me...after coming to my mother's place she never called me one day also to know about my health or my daughter health ..all this behaviour of her and her son I cannot forget in my lifetime... but now I have also learn how to ignore things... bcoz my only priority of my life is my daughter ...... she is everything for me...I feel I don't need anyone except her...
sab ghar ki same khani hoti bs agr kahi se koi himmat aati h to bs apne bacche ke dekh kr aur uski ek hassi sare gum bhula deti h aur ha agr baat kisi baat se aapko bura lga ho to uske liye bhi sorry
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Nishu Jha Mom of 2 children 2 years ago
In reply to Aishwarya
Hi all...., i am the mother of three months old baby boy. in my 37th week of pregnancy my hubby attacked with dengue fever, n on 40th week of delivery i have undergone 27 hours of labour pain, on the day of delivery my mom attacked with viral fever....., after all these we have decided to go to my mother in laws hometown. My MIL is a typical person, she is having half knowledge n always says opposite to me. if i say right she says it is wrong n if i say something is wrong she says it is right. initially she dint allow me to feed my baby for every 2hrs, she said we have to feed only when baby cries. when i am trying to make him sleep she says let him play. now she is not allowing me to go to my moms house after 3rd month and not even allowing to go to my house and insisting my husband in the concern of baby let her stay here upto 5months. All my maternity leaves are going like this dipressed, am unable to enjoy with my baby, she z not allowing me to make him bath r dress up, applys lot of kajal into his eyes even though he cries. Finally now she z planning after maternity leave i have to leave my kid with her so she z trying seperate me from him n making habituated to her. when i take baby into arms she says keep him in cradle r on bed n let him grow. only for the sake of feeding she z allowing me to take him. Day by day i am feeling like hell with her, i am not able to get out of the situation, i have lost interest in all the worldy things, dont have any right to spend with my kid.
tears came to my eyes reading this all, coz almost same situation I had suffered from. I felt like depression for many months because of such crual mother in law. She still keep on trying what she desires but now my 22montgs old baby had made me stronger enough that I can easily handle her and no body in this world can make my baby far from me even for a second.
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Shweta Arya Mom of a 2 yr 10 m old girl 2 years ago
In reply to binish
This is absolutely natural on your part that you need to keep your baby all the time.A mother waits for 9 full months to get her baby in her arms, and of course this period of the baby will pass like this only and you will not be able to cherish what you are deserving for. If this would be my situation i would have taken help from my husband and let my in laws know that they can never give baby that warmth which can be given by mother only.
I would suggest you not to be depressed anymore rather stand and take your baby from them confidently. Every relationship has some control over it, implement please!
It's lovely to know that I'm not alone....I have a 2 month old daughter and facing the same issue with my In-laws. No point talking to husband about this as he will naturally be partial and never understand you. You have to take a stand on this my privacy was taken completely, I was only given the baby to feed or make her sleep. For feeding also my inlaw are behind me to give formal milk while I'm naturally getting perfect fed.They are always complaining why dose she sleep so much? I started shutting my door, I take her as she starts crying or becomes irritated. They get angry, they taunt me, whole day they make judgements and tell my husband. they and her father also tell things abt me to my baby. But its better to be bad rather to be depressed. And ultimately I'm her mother and I don't have to Prove any one how much I love her or care for her. NOR Any one can take my place as mother. So chill and enjoy every moment with her, these days are not coming back.
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Dayaram yadav Father of 2 children 2 years ago
mujhe garl huaa hi
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