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Joint Family – Most Needed But Often Unwanted
Dear parents, what you think about being in a nuclear family? I would love to share my experience in this post.
When I was 24 years old, my family starting searching for a ‘perfect’ groom for me. It’s kinda obvious in India. But who decides the line of perfection? Anyways, I stayed in a joint family, and my only wish was to marry in a joint family. But, there is a twist in the tale. I was married to a CA who lives away from his family of six people.
The family, as I mentioned in my previous blog, is amazing. But again, I will have to stay with my hubby, who is a businessman in Mumbai. He is really good. We stay here alone. In the beginning, it was all good until I conceived just 3 months of my marriage. I wasn’t settled by then. Just married and first pregnancy – two delicate moments of my life!! Oh, my God!! No ones around to take care or at least guide.
Thanks to technology, I was connected to my in-laws and my family. But still, no technology can help you with love and affection of a mother’s touch, which I desperately needed at that time. The cherry on the cake was I didn’t know how to cook. I couldn’t even make something as simple as dal-rice. In short, I had three problems together – to adjust in a new family, to learn how to cook, and last but not least, to overcome all the emotions and physical ups and downs of pregnancy. Additionally, I had to face loneliness in the house. It affected me most because I came from a loving family of 14 people. 14 people!!!
In my experience, there is no substitute for a joint family. If you have one, you are lucky. Of course, there are problems as well, but if they are loving and helpful, differences can be sorted or ignored, too.