Boon for Some; Bane for a Few – Not to Be Judged!

By Csbhawna Chaddha - Updated: January 7, 2021

Well, it’s the mindset that society is following from centuries that a newlywed woman is supposed to live with her in-laws. But what’s so wrong in this if your in-laws are good? There’s nothing bad to live with them if they are understanding and support the concept of marital privacy.

If you think about today’s women, most of us are independent and career-oriented. At the same time, are desirous of growing families, I believe support from the in-laws is a blessing for them. I would like to share my example.

I live with my in-laws, and I have no problem living with them. It’s totally ok if your thoughts do not match with them sometimes and if it turns into an argument. It’s a joint family where every member may have their own different opinion. I believe talking, or communication can solve every argument. Well, not all in-laws are monsters who will treat their daughters-in-law badly or would treat her like a caregiver all the time.

Living with in-laws has its own pros and cons. Let’s discuss the pros first.

1. Children would be able to know their grandparents.
2. The couple would definitely get household and financial help.
3. You will always have someone to share your household chores with.

Let’s have a look at the cons also:

The couple’s privacy might get disturbed.
You may not get a chance to decorate your home or clean your home your way.
Some unsolicited advice, which you may not always like, comes your way every now and then.

However, every coin has two sides. If a couple does not want to live with the in-laws, their decision should be respected. The society should not treat them as villains and the daughter-in-law as a vampire. They have full right of marital privacy and to keep distance to let marital life flourish while maintaining an amicable relationship with the elders. Not living with in-laws certainly does not mean disrespecting elders!

By concluding this, it can be a boon for some and a bane for few. Ultimately, the decision should be respected and not criticised by society.

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