My two year old daughter is becoming more adamant day by day... screaming or crying for everything she wants to get... How should I handle her ?

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She is starting to realise the real world. That she cannot get everything she wants and sometimes there are restrictions which she could not get used to initially. This will show up as tantrums and sometimes even through violence. Whenever your toddler hurts herself or others , hug her and explain to her with love that it is not the right way to ask something.  Keep on repeating this and show how she can let out his anger without hurting herself and stay cool. Also don't give up fearing for her tantrums and give everything she asks for. Then she will keep on repeating this. Try to console her by hugging, cuddling and calming her down. But never give what she asks for unless it is really necessary. Even those things which u can give her, give it before she throws a tantrum. Otherwise she will get into the belief that she can get anything through her crying and hurting.

These tantrums are quite common. But you should not punish your kid. You should encourage to get out of this behaviour. Offer her a sticker every time she behaves well. Don't scold her talking about her bad behaviour. But praise her for her good behaviour even if it is just once in a while. Or keep a good behaviour box. Give her a coin to put in the box every time she behaves well. Once the box is full, count along with her and praise her and gift her something. Keep the box small, so that it will get filled soon as if it is big she will lose hope. Never ever punish a child of this age as it will aggravate his behaviour. And it is also equally common for moms to get tired of this and lose patience. So dont have any mom guilt. Just keep going. He will be fine soon. You can change her only through ur love.

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Toddler tantrums....
Many toddlers show aggressive behavior And tantrum around 2 years of age mainly out of frustration: Their desire to do things is greater than their capability. They want to communicate their needs and wants, but have a limited vocabulary. Toddlers also become aggressive in order to release pent-up anger, to control a  situation, to show power or to protect their turf in a toy squabble

so try to increase his vocubalory..
try to teach him what he is feeling...
name his emotions... his words... you can say that I know you are angry...

teach him that this is not good.. ... give simple reasons... make him understand by words... but without shouting... in normal tones... don't shout when he is throwing tantrums.. just be normal... don't react... Just go with your work... Don't pay attention to the tantrums.. Just ignore... And do what you're doing... if in public place then take him to the side...

also say everything in gentle terms... but in firm way.. if you denied something to him... then be firm on your decision... explain him the reasons of denying in simple words...for eg ...if he want to play outside in the sun.. then you can say that it's very hot and sunny outside, the is nobody out there.. let's play inside...
always reasons him for denying...

but always be firm in your decision.. if you give away with his tantrums then he will think his tantrums are working so he will do it again and again... so avoid it from the starting

try to distract him...

also don't say no to everything... say no only to something which are more likely to effects on him dangerously...

also say no in a positive way... like if he is throwing the ball inside the room where things can break.. you can say let's play outside catch catch.. instead of saying don't throw the ball here...

rest have patience.. this too will pass...

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