my son is becoming more and more arrogant and irritable.
he doesn't want to hear no.
he shouts and resist us.
please guide me

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Toddler tantrums....
Many toddlers show aggressive behavior And tantrum around 2 years of age mainly out of frustration: Their desire to do things is greater than their capability. They want to communicate their needs and wants, but have a limited vocabulary. Toddlers also become aggressive in order to release pent-up anger, to control a  situation, to show power or to protect their turf in a toy squabble

so try to increase his vocubalory..
try to teach him what he is feeling...
name his emotions... his words... you can say that I know you are angry...

teach him that this is not good.. ... give simple reasons... make him understand by words... but without shouting... in normal tones... don't shout when he is throwing tantrums.. just be normal... don't react... Just go with your work... Don't pay attention to the tantrums.. Just ignore... And do what you're doing... if in public place then take him to the side...

also say everything in gentle terms... but in firm way.. if you denied something to him... then be firm on your decision... explain him the reasons of denying in simple words...for eg ...if he want to play outside in the sun.. then you can say that it's very hot and sunny outside, the is nobody out there.. let's play inside...
always reasons him for denying...

but always be firm in your decision.. if you give away with his tantrums then he will think his tantrums are working so he will do it again and again... so avoid it from the starting

try to distract him...

also don't say no to everything... say no only to something which are more likely to effects on him dangerously...

also say no in a positive way... like if he is throwing the ball inside the room where things can break.. you can say let's play outside catch catch.. instead of saying don't throw the ball here...

rest have patience.. this too will pass...

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sounds like a toddler tantrum. you must first try speaking gently but firmly to your child or you may end up with an indisciplined one. toddlers get very overwhelmed wih emotions and end up throwing tantrums, be patient and put ur point across, don't yell back at your child :)

my son is becoming more and more arrogant and irritable. he doesn't want to hear no. he shouts and resist us. please guide me