hello my son is going to be 2 1/2 year old soon. he has become notorious and ziddy. he has started going to school since 1 1/2 month. I m having a 2 month old baby boy also.
I can't understand how to handle my elder son.
please guide me

Question

hello my son is going to be 2 1/2 year  old soon. he has become notorious and ziddy. he has started going to school since 1 1/2 month. I m having a 2 month old baby boy also.
I can't understand how to handle my elder son.
please guide me

Accepted Answer

Toddler tantrums....
Many toddlers show aggressive behavior And tantrum around 2 years of age mainly out of frustration: Their desire to do things is greater than their capability. They want to communicate their needs and wants, but have a limited vocabulary. Toddlers also become aggressive in order to release pent-up anger, to control a  situation, to show power or to protect their turf in a toy squabble

so try to increase his vocubalory..
try to teach him what he is feeling...
name his emotions... his words... you can say that I know you are angry...

teach him that this is not good.. ... give simple reasons... make him understand by words... but without shouting... in normal tones... don't shout when he is throwing tantrums.. just be normal... don't react... Just go with your work... Don't pay attention to the tantrums.. Just ignore... And do what you're doing... if in public place then take him to the side...

also say everything in gentle terms... but in firm way.. if you denied something to him... then be firm on your decision... explain him the reasons of denying in simple words...for eg ...if he want to play outside in the sun.. then you can say that it's very hot and sunny outside, the is nobody out there.. let's play inside...
always reasons him for denying...

but always be firm in your decision.. if you give away with his tantrums then he will think his tantrums are working so he will do it again and again... so avoid it from the starting

try to distract him...

also don't say no to everything... say no only to something which are more likely to effects on him dangerously...

also say no in a positive way... like if he is throwing the ball inside the room where things can break.. you can say let's play outside catch catch.. instead of saying don't throw the ball here...

rest have patience.. this too will pass...

Answer

He is a little soul. Even at this age as adults we are possessive. So it is very normal for him to behave so. You should understand this and continue to be caring and patient with him. Don't do big brother talks and mount much pressure on him like you have become mature and you should adjust etc., involve him in caring for the baby like fetching diapers or choosing clothes for baby or gently applying lotion etc., don't do breastfeeding like a secret mission. Let him know what u r doing and explain how you have fed him when he was a baby, always answer to his questions by maintaining eyecontact with him, try wearing your baby so that u will have free hands to interact with him, maintain a schedule for feeding and napping ur baby so u will have time to play or read a story to him. Ur baby won't feel possessive at this age but ur elder kid will certainly feel it. So sometimes you can get help from others to care for ur baby and u can spend time with him.

hello my son is going to be 2 1/2 year old soon. he has become notorious and ziddy. he has started going to school since 1 1/2 month. I m having a 2 month old baby boy also. I can't understand how to handle my elder son. please guide me