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Mom of a 8 yr 8 m old boy7 years ago
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Dear all , I know it’s not the right platform but I need help from all mommies - My husband is short tempered person & my mother in law is very snobby . It’s being 2 n half years of marriage n I’m having a year old kid too . Well before my baby was born whenever my mother in law Taunt or so being I shared it with my hubby thinking he is my best friend . One day he burst out his anger on everyone due to his own personal anger n blabber our mine shared thoughts too . Things got worse when that time as everyone was one one side n me n him on other - being a joint family . Since then I avoid sharing family issues with him infact not even when I felt Heard by any comments or act of anyone . But now from past 4 months - due to buss issue my hubby is too moddy & aggressive. Now I feel like I’m staying with wall as I try to avoid much sharing with mother in law somehow her temperament & her nature scares me any day she will get angry n won’t talk for days . I somehow try to share my issues with my father in law - he always says I’ll talk to my hubby n gimme lil consonance . Time passes by but now with my recent argument with my mother in law ( I’m not a saint so unfortunately I relied her back - my bad ) my father in law too side tracked my issue with my hubby merely saying I will talk to him n all & was more concerned with mother in law issue ( something happen with him too same day when I had arguement with mother in law). This time I reply my father in law with all his misconceptions about me being not a sanskari bahu but then I say he is not ready to listen n I gave up on him . My only so called hope to whom I always seek help for my hubby issue but I never ever complain about anyone else . My maternal parents are always the bad perosn who rarely call my father in law to say that our daughter is crying or how rude my hubby me - from drinking almost daily to abusive language. They too dun know whom to talk decently about what I’m going through as whenver they call my father in law i am always the culprit n got long list of my misbehaved issue . In all this my bro came to pick me for rakhi to stay with maternal family for few days .. I came after seeking permission from all but with recent argument with mother in law she atill not talking to me , my hubby who said to my bro as a prermission by wish that she will go n u will come n drop her after few days no worry as I’m busy so can’t come to pick her up . Well now it’s being 4 days my hubby not picking up cal nor replying my text . Same attitude he had before I came with my brother . I’m tired of all this Pls tell what should I do Apology for sharing my personal drama here But i m aloof

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profile image of Dr. Pandurang sawantExpertDr. Pandurang sawantPaediatrician7 years ago

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profile image of Shivani SahuShivani SahuMom of a 13 yr 3 m old girl6 years ago

A. Hi dear, don't call it drama this is reality. If somebody is not respecting you it's OK. you know you are not wrong. if mother in law not talking take it positivity at least no shor sharaba, don't complain to your in laws, don't expect from your parents to interfere, do what you feel is right. focus on your child. if you feel it's better and practically possible seeing future with baby to come out of the relationship, do it. if not. start working on your peace of mind. if sometime you feel you should answer your in laws to make them shut up without harming yourself and kid, go ahead. if they are becoming aggressive, abusive physically make it clear to them you are not gonna bear it.

profile image of YashaswiniYashaswiniMom of a 8 yr 1 m old girl7 years ago

A. This is common and complicated problem. U can't change them but you can change yourself. You have a child, so try to become matured, which means talk less and think more. Respond with maturity. Don't react for silly words. They are not worth it. First bring your husband to track with love. Husbands respond to sweet words. Discuss about your child and his future, even he will realise that there's much more than negativity. All the best!

kavitaMom of a 7 yr 11 m old boy7 years ago

A. hii..this is every daughter in law's story, first thing is you have to be strong enough to fight for your self, secondly don't pay attention to the chitter-chatter around and don't reply for unnecessary arguments.Spend time with baby and engage yourself in some constructive work which will shift your attention. You have to stand for yourself and your relatives respect. Stay strong and positive.

deepikaMom of a 7 yr 9 m old boy7 years ago

A. Hello, Don’t let them ruin your happiness.If you want to stand up jus do it, you have your own wishes, likes dislikes, opinions and this what makes you who you are! If you want peace, Jus focus on your kid! There is nothing more important than that. Think how can you bring him/her up! No one can solve your problem other than you!!! All the best (don’t worry most of them has this kind of problem)! Jus be positive!

profile image of shikhashikhaMom of a 8 yr 11 m old boy7 years ago

A. Family dramas are never ending. You will find peace only when you will learn not to give importance to such issues. Since complete ignore is not possible and leaves you frustrated, i suggest you to meditate and connect with almighty. You may be finding this a not workable solution, but believe me, in hardest times, this way will save you and you will know how to remain peaceful even if everyone's against you.

profile image of SantoSantoMom of a 8 yr 9 m old girl7 years ago

A. Just ignore and take care if your baby. Your baby is your priority now. These dramas will happen and it's upto you how you react. Silence is the best answer for these kind of people and you will be in peace if you ignore. Also your self respect is very important don't ever give up on that. Be smart enough to handle these situations if things go worse olplease stand up for yourself and seek help from women organizations.

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