Discussion about Challenges in Raising a Child

Mohammed Khoker Mom of 2 children 2 years ago

Yes

In reply to KANCHAN

In today world fussy is fantastic bcz its not important what others think about you you should bring up your child as how you want bcz its not just baby its the generation that you are going to build

when in laws are living with you, they don't like you. but they love your child as if this baby is their own. they show all unnecessary care to your child. they show all their attention to your child. they don't do any household chores and want everything to be done by you. they will hold your baby all through the day. and will say to entire world that they are helping you by taking care of your child. but, actually, they are just doing entertainment of themselves and snatching your right of being close with your baby, play with your baby.

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Community User 4 years ago

In reply to Abhilasha

yes it is very difficult to take care of a child in nuclear family.

trust me, its even more difficult when you are living with your inlaws and raising your child. you have to struggle all throgh the day to spend your time with ur little one (when u are living with ur in laws). they don't like to give your baby to you. they themselves want to play with your baby all through the day. and you are left with doing all other household chores, baby's food preparation, cleaning su-su, poty, and changing baby's pajamas, giving medicines to your child, cleaning baby's mouth, tongue and clothes etc. all through this time your in laws will hold ur child and u just have to do baby's work and go.

All this I am supposed to do after i return home from my office at 6.30/7. i have maids at home for everything, except for dusting. my mother in law doesn't want to do any single work, trust me any single work. they have moved to my house unannounced when i was 7 months pregnant (saying everyone that they are coming to help me). but, whatever small thing they did for me, they have announced it to entire world. and now my baby is 10 months old, they are not doing anything at all. they both are just sitting idle in my home and all day just play with my baby. because of this, my baby is also attached to them more than me or my husband. but, my husband is happy with the fact that his parents are happy. he also can't see my pain that I am not happy with the arrangement he has made. this is a lifetime problem for me now.

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lavanya Mom of 3 children 3 years ago

In reply to Firstcry User

trust me, its even more difficult when you are living with your inlaws and raising your child. you have to struggle all throgh the day to spend your time with ur little one (when u are living with ur in laws). they don't like to give your baby to you. they themselves want to play with your baby all through the day. and you are left with doing all other household chores, baby's food preparation, cleaning su-su, poty, and changing baby's pajamas, giving medicines to your child, cleaning baby's mouth, tongue and clothes etc. all through this time your in laws will hold ur child and u just have to do baby's work and go.

All this I am supposed to do after i return home from my office at 6.30/7. i have maids at home for everything, except for dusting. my mother in law doesn't want to do any single work, trust me any single work. they have moved to my house unannounced when i was 7 months pregnant (saying everyone that they are coming to help me). but, whatever small thing they did for me, they have announced it to entire world. and now my baby is 10 months old, they are not doing anything at all. they both are just sitting idle in my home and all day just play with my baby. because of this, my baby is also attached to them more than me or my husband. but, my husband is happy with the fact that his parents are happy. he also can't see my pain that I am not happy with the arrangement he has made. this is a lifetime problem for me now.

I am feeling the same