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Living with In Laws!
Living with in-laws after marriage is a custom that Indian women have to follow even today! While it may work out well for some women, there are plenty of issues that may arise. Sometimes it is difficult to find privacy & your personal space in a joint family. What do you think? Share your views on it.
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shweta shah Mom of 2 children 2 months ago
In reply to Prachi Kadam
Yes, absolutely. we do all the things which our parents taught us before marriage. we do sacrifices for them but they don't even change their habits.
sooo true they want we should do the same as they say
Rehab Maniar Guardian of 2 children 3 months ago
In reply to Mamta Dhiman
In crona situation , We have to live with inlaws joint family.They are good but
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can't live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can't eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
I totally agree with you
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shweta sirohi Guardian of 2 children 2 months ago
Yes it's a custom and when a girl enters to her in-laws house she gives her best to make them happy because she doesn't want to take any blame on herself, but also she expects some respect, love from her husband and a place in their family but if they still doesn't want to accept her as a family member and hide everything from her and talk behind her back, prefer to talk to their son in absence of their daughter in law, then nothing can be done. In that situation separation is the only way to be happy. my mother in law supported my husband's extra marital affair and it was just 20th day of my marriage when I got to know all that, i was crying badly and she says, "to kya hua agar ye aisa kar rha h sabhi bahar muh marte hain, mere sath chal mei dikhati hu tujhe ro kar drama mat kar, and can you people believe I got fainted because I was pregnant and I didn't know that. when I got to know I am pregnant I was not happy but shocked because of the situation. my baby is 23 moths old now but when I remember all that now I still get tears. She tortured me alot for two years. My husband never listened to me because he respect his mother alot. Even when my baby was born she took him from me and said," jaise mera man karega waise palungi ise tu mere pote se dur rah" I couldn't do anything for my baby of my choice.. Anyways, list is too long, and please the people who says,"Girls ko apni mother in law ko as a mother pyar or respect krna chahiye" must read my story. Now after 2.5 years of my marriage we got separated when my husband realized I was right and she did wrong to me, my husband is nice to me now and doesn't have anyone in his life except me but I still can't forget all that and I am still depressed. Thank you
Ps Raj Mom of a 8 m old boy 2 months ago
In reply to Mamta Dhiman
In crona situation , We have to live with inlaws joint family.They are good but
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can't live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can't eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
ryt
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Prachi Kadam Mom of a 11 m old boy 2 months ago
In reply to shaivi
I feel the same....
Yes, absolutely. we do all the things which our parents taught us before marriage. we do sacrifices for them but they don't even change their habits.
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Sapna Mom of a 1 yr 10 m old boy 2 months ago
In reply to Rehab Maniar
I totally agree with you
I agree with u
Mamta Dhiman Mom of a 9 m old boy 3 months ago
In reply to Pinal Meghani
I totally agree with your opinions.
I have to live with in laws for Life time. no matter how I feel. most annoying thing in it is my sister-in-law..cant handle her.
But mine is very supportive sis in law even she is too younger than me
Pinal Meghani Mom of a 2 yr old girl 6 months ago
In reply to Mamta Dhiman
In crona situation , We have to live with inlaws joint family.They are good but
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can't live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can't eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
I totally agree with your opinions.
I have to live with in laws for Life time. no matter how I feel. most annoying thing in it is my sister-in-law..cant handle her.
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sumaiya Mom of 4 children 3 months ago
So true..
Riya Mom of 3 children 3 months ago
even I have inlaws ,but they are very helpful , especially in managing the kids.During lockdowns ,we got enough quality time to develop a special bonding. I think they are a blessing . they recuperate the love and acceptance u give them.
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