you are right sister i am also suffering from this situation and knew it that this types of silly people can\'t improve themselves only they think about thir own happiness and comfort what\'s you like what\'s you think have no any matter
Yes very true that it is a custom. But why don't they (in- laws) understand that if a girl is entering her in laws house leaving everything everyone behind, she also need little care and pampering because she is the one who will be your support when you are in need.
The fact that they wanted to look strict in front of the society and wants to take command (even though they think of this in different manner for their own daughter, they wanted a good and caring family for her... why don't they become one first)
some things which in-laws used to say:
1. Prepare food according to my style (no matter how much you are aware of it even if you can prepare tasty food)
2. Don't wear this or that... only wear this otherwise society will scold me ( even though society is busy is there own matter)
3. Your parents don't teach you this at home ( how much you teach your daughter ?..... my parents understands me more than you do)
4. you are teaching my son to behave bad with me ( Your son is not a baby in diaper)
5. Touch feet when anyone is coming to our home and cover your silly face ( why all are coming to judge me am I showpiece ?)
6. you should only work at home because you are giving money to your parents ( who are you to say no to my work and judge me on the basis of society's observation)
7. you don't know anything about our culture, you are bad you should work more and stop reply me back. you are shameless your parents didn't scold you for answering back ( Then you also have a daughter teach her politeness as she will also go to in-laws house one time)
In brackets there are words which we think In mind but will never be able to tell in front.
But be positive and try to isolate yourself from this type of people.
you are right sister i am also suffering from this situation and knew it that this types of silly people can't improve themselves only they think about thir own happiness and comfort what's you like what's you think have no any matter
See the topic is "living with In Laws". This could be applied to both men and women. but, in our indian tradition it applies only to women. only women have to live and adjust with in laws. men won't. No matter how independent the woman is. she might have her own house, every single thing she might have bought and made by her own. Still, In laws come to her house and they start living with her. permanently. Everything finish.
and From here, worst things start.
Your husband won't be yours now. he will take side of his parents, blindly, during any arguments.
you have to share everything with your in laws. Your time, your energy, your home, your husband and offcourse your own baby.
They will show their full right on everything and everyone. but, they won't consider you as their own. They won't even consider you as a human being.
They will do nothing at home, sit ideally and just want to play with your child and will expect from you to do household chores (yes offcourse, after you come from office).
you don't have any right to raise your baby by your own way. they will try to raise your baby by their way and will always point out mistakes saying this should not be done, that should not be done.
they will do it in a manner that one day your husband will also come to you and will say you are not a good mother at all.
they will interfere in all your deeds and will hide everything from you which is related to their daughters and relatives and everyone around them.
You don't have any privacy.
wherever you go, you have to inform them. but, wherever they will go, they won't feel necessary to inform you.
When you take your baby to your room, they will say about you that she is always sitting in her room and not getting mixed up with them. So, you start sitting with them, and they will only play with your baby and talk with your husband. you just have to sit there, give your baby to them and show everyone your smile. You have to say 'yes' in whatever they say. you don't have to argue on anything. if you do, you are not a 'Sanskari'.
all these and many more adjustments. still your husband would say one day that what are you doing exactly for him and his parents, if you are loving him. you are not always ready to sacrifice.
Many a times you think what is the purpose of living with in laws. they dont love you, they dont respect you. they dont consider u their family, they wont even consider you a good human being. all these things, slowly, over the period of time, your husband would also start to say to you. your relationship with your husband gets ruined. your baby was also always with them. in your own home, you are like outsider. they live like a team who meet often secretely (behind you) and agenda of the meeting is what this girl did and what not. what she was supposed to do (as per them) and what she did not do. they discuss and your husband nods them in agreement and after 2, 3 days or so, he will fight with you with all those points, which he has been taught from them.
now, can please anyone tell me, what is the purpose of living with in-laws. your home is not your home, your hsuband is not your own, your baby is also their's.
you cant live separately from your husband, bcz again so called society will throw arguments on you and will blame you that you couldnt adjusted with them. You also cant live with them together, bcz they will always treat you as an outsider. you have been stuck in a web from where you cannot come outside. can never come. you are stuck there forever.
In crona situation , We have to live with inlaws joint family.They are good but
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can\'t live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can\'t eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
In crona situation , We have to live with inlaws joint family.They are good but
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can't live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can't eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
I have been living with my in-laws for past 2 year since we got married. In my opinion there is nothing wrong in staying with inlaws. There are many benefits like:
Me and my husband are both family people and we find it amazing to come home to our family and spend time with them.
If me and my hubby fight and are not talking to each other then they always takes my side and asks him to solve the issue…
Though I know my husband for a long time still when one starts living together,we learn lot more new things about eachother and if you have family with you then you can go through any situation in life..
Happiness increases when we share it with others…let it be anyone\'s birthday or anniversary we try to surprise the other person and that happiness is what worth living for…
I know many people don\'t like staying with there in-laws…but I am truly happy to stay with them…
I have been living with my in-laws for past 2 year since we got married. In my opinion there is nothing wrong in staying with inlaws. There are many benefits like:
Me and my husband are both family people and we find it amazing to come home to our family and spend time with them.
If me and my hubby fight and are not talking to each other then they always takes my side and asks him to solve the issue…
Though I know my husband for a long time still when one starts living together,we learn lot more new things about eachother and if you have family with you then you can go through any situation in life..
Happiness increases when we share it with others…let it be anyone's birthday or anniversary we try to surprise the other person and that happiness is what worth living for…
I know many people don't like staying with there in-laws…but I am truly happy to stay with them…
Those Indian women are very lucky who live with their inlaws after marriage. Nowadays both husband and wife are doing job, in this situation parents make them free from most of the responsibilities at home.It increases efficiency at the workplace. Give your inlaws respect and love. In return, you will get a healthy , happy and peaceful life.
Those Indian women are very lucky who live with their inlaws after marriage. Nowadays both husband and wife are doing job, in this situation parents make them free from most of the responsibilities at home.It increases efficiency at the workplace. Give your inlaws respect and love. In return, you will get a healthy , happy and peaceful life.
The fact that they wanted to look strict in front of the society and wants to take command (even though they think of this in different manner for their own daughter, they wanted a good and caring family for her... why don't they become one first)
some things which in-laws used to say:
1. Prepare food according to my style (no matter how much you are aware of it even if you can prepare tasty food)
2. Don't wear this or that... only wear this otherwise society will scold me ( even though society is busy is there own matter)
3. Your parents don't teach you this at home ( how much you teach your daughter ?..... my parents understands me more than you do)
4. you are teaching my son to behave bad with me ( Your son is not a baby in diaper)
5. Touch feet when anyone is coming to our home and cover your silly face ( why all are coming to judge me am I showpiece ?)
6. you should only work at home because you are giving money to your parents ( who are you to say no to my work and judge me on the basis of society's observation)
7. you don't know anything about our culture, you are bad you should work more and stop reply me back. you are shameless your parents didn't scold you for answering back ( Then you also have a daughter teach her politeness as she will also go to in-laws house one time)
In brackets there are words which we think In mind but will never be able to tell in front.
But be positive and try to isolate yourself from this type of people.
and From here, worst things start.
Your husband won't be yours now. he will take side of his parents, blindly, during any arguments.
you have to share everything with your in laws. Your time, your energy, your home, your husband and offcourse your own baby.
They will show their full right on everything and everyone. but, they won't consider you as their own. They won't even consider you as a human being.
They will do nothing at home, sit ideally and just want to play with your child and will expect from you to do household chores (yes offcourse, after you come from office).
you don't have any right to raise your baby by your own way. they will try to raise your baby by their way and will always point out mistakes saying this should not be done, that should not be done.
they will do it in a manner that one day your husband will also come to you and will say you are not a good mother at all.
they will interfere in all your deeds and will hide everything from you which is related to their daughters and relatives and everyone around them.
You don't have any privacy.
wherever you go, you have to inform them. but, wherever they will go, they won't feel necessary to inform you.
When you take your baby to your room, they will say about you that she is always sitting in her room and not getting mixed up with them. So, you start sitting with them, and they will only play with your baby and talk with your husband. you just have to sit there, give your baby to them and show everyone your smile. You have to say 'yes' in whatever they say. you don't have to argue on anything. if you do, you are not a 'Sanskari'.
all these and many more adjustments. still your husband would say one day that what are you doing exactly for him and his parents, if you are loving him. you are not always ready to sacrifice.
Many a times you think what is the purpose of living with in laws. they dont love you, they dont respect you. they dont consider u their family, they wont even consider you a good human being. all these things, slowly, over the period of time, your husband would also start to say to you. your relationship with your husband gets ruined. your baby was also always with them. in your own home, you are like outsider. they live like a team who meet often secretely (behind you) and agenda of the meeting is what this girl did and what not. what she was supposed to do (as per them) and what she did not do. they discuss and your husband nods them in agreement and after 2, 3 days or so, he will fight with you with all those points, which he has been taught from them.
now, can please anyone tell me, what is the purpose of living with in-laws. your home is not your home, your hsuband is not your own, your baby is also their's.
you cant live separately from your husband, bcz again so called society will throw arguments on you and will blame you that you couldnt adjusted with them. You also cant live with them together, bcz they will always treat you as an outsider. you have been stuck in a web from where you cannot come outside. can never come. you are stuck there forever.
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can't live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can't eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
Me and my husband are both family people and we find it amazing to come home to our family and spend time with them.
If me and my hubby fight and are not talking to each other then they always takes my side and asks him to solve the issue…
Though I know my husband for a long time still when one starts living together,we learn lot more new things about eachother and if you have family with you then you can go through any situation in life..
Happiness increases when we share it with others…let it be anyone's birthday or anniversary we try to surprise the other person and that happiness is what worth living for…
I know many people don't like staying with there in-laws…but I am truly happy to stay with them…
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