It’s a sad fact that some members of our society tend to look down on women who give birth via C-section. It’s 2018, yet vaginal birth is still touted as the best and only way to bring a new life into the world, and a C-section is treated with disdain and disapproval. Well, this C-section mom was sick of being judged, and in a viral post, decided to tell her haters exactly what she thought of them.
“Oh. A C-section? So you didn’t actually give birth. It must have been nice to take the easy way out like that.”
This is one of the common reactions that mommy Raye Lee gets when she tells someone that she had her son via an emergency C-section. What most people forget is that C-sections are just as painful as natural birth is, if not during, then after. Unfortunately, C-section moms aren’t as vocal about their pain and suffering as they should be. Mommy Raye is here to inspire us all with her sarcastic but absolutely heartfelt response:
“Ah, yes. My emergency C-section was absolutely a matter of convenience. It was really convenient to be in labor for 38 hours before my baby went into distress and then every contraction was literally STOPPING his HEART. Being told at the beginning that I was displaying great progress and wouldn’t need a cesarean section… and then being told that I was being prepped for major abdominal surgery was not a shock at all. It had nothing to do with the fact that I physically couldn’t because I was given no other choice to save the life of my child. Oh, and that surgery is super easy peasy to recover from.
WRONG, That is all sarcasm.
This was the most painful thing I have experienced in my life. I now belong to a badass tribe of mamas with the scar to prove that I had a baby cut out of me and lived to tell the tale (because you can die from this, you know).”
And for those who wonder exactly what is so bad about a C-section, she spares no details of all that happened during her delivery. The details are enough to daunt even the most strong-willed of us. They are also ample evidence that C-sections are anything but easy, and indeed, sometimes the ONLY way to safely bring your baby into this world.
“Having a shrieking infant pulled out of an incision that is only 5 inches long, but is cut and shredded and pulled until it rips apart through all of your layers of fat, muscle, and organs (which they lay on the table next to your body, in order to continue to cut until they reach your child) is a completely different experience than I had imagined my sons birth to be.
This was not pleasant. It still isn’t.
You use your core muscles for literally everything… even sitting down, imagine not being able to use them because they have literally been shredded and mangled by a doctor and not being able to repair them for 6+ weeks because your body has to do it naturally.
When that first nurse asked you to try getting out of bed and the ripping pain of a body cut apart and stitched back together seared through you, you realized the irony of anybody who talks about it being the “easy way out”.
Whoa! That sounds like a terrible ordeal, doesn’t it? Not to mention the fact that C-section brings with it more post surgery complications than a vaginal birth. Infection in the incision, bladder or other internal organ injury, and heavy blood loss are just a few of the many things that could go wrong in a C-section. Little wonder then that she signed off with this:
“I am the strongest woman that I know. Not only for myself, but for my beautiful son… and I would honestly go through this every single day just to make sure I am able to see his smiling face.”
Hats off to you mama, for letting the world know that C-section is no walk in the park, and what matters most is that our babies are born safe and healthy. Let’s stop judging each other based on whether we had a ‘normal’ delivery or a C-section one. It is a matter of circumstance, personal choice, health, medical advice and several other factors rolled together. The method of childbirth doesn’t matter. What matters is that the mom and baby are both healthy and well.
We all know how challenging motherhood can be. In this journey, we and our fellow moms need support and understanding, not judgment based on untruths.