I am currently staying with my in laws for another two months and my mother in law is takes care of massage and giving bath to the baby and keeps the baby when I sleep. I notice that my baby is more attached to her than to me? He is currently 4 Months old.. Is it so that babies identify mother at this age and will have trouble attaching to me later? Iam very grateful to Mt mother in law for taking such good care of me and my baby but just feel sad when I don't see my baby attached to me..

Question

I am currently staying with my in laws for another two months  and my mother in law is takes care of massage and giving bath to the baby and keeps the baby when I sleep. I notice that my baby is more attached to her than to me? He is currently 4 Months old.. Is it so that babies identify mother at this age and will have trouble attaching to me later? Iam very grateful to Mt mother in law for taking such good care of me and my baby but just feel sad when I don't see my baby attached to me..

Accepted Answer

Rest assured, friend, he will always love you, even if he has a strong attachment to grandma. You see, being attached to her is a sign that he has a healthy attachment to you. Only once a child can establish attachment to his primary caregiver (you) does he have the courage to explore other relationships.