hello everyone
I am a mother of 1.5 years old baby girl. I left my baby at home with my mil and a caretaker and rejoined to my work. as my baby was not breastfed, she was on formula milk.Now I feel like I have done a wrong thing by rejoining the job. I feel very guilty. I thought of quitting the job and enjoying my motherhood, which I was not able to do, but my mil and other family members r not ok with my decision. My question is, she being a mother of 2 children is not understanding my feelings. Y? Even my child needs a mother. They even say it's OK u leave her there r so many parents who leave their babies in play homes. It's not only u. At this time, my child needs my love and support which she is not getting. My question is, is it ok to leave my baby and go for job. what about my emotions and feelings? Please guise help me to get out of this.

Question

hello everyone 
I am a mother of 1.5 years old baby girl. I left my baby at home with my mil and a caretaker and rejoined to my work. as my baby was not breastfed, she was on formula milk.Now I feel like I have done a wrong thing by rejoining the job. I feel very guilty. I thought of quitting the job and enjoying my motherhood, which I was not able to do, but my mil and other family members r not ok with my decision. My question is, she being a mother of 2 children is not understanding my feelings. Y? Even my child needs a mother. They even say it's OK u leave her there r so many parents who leave their babies in play homes. It's not only u. At this time, my child needs my love and support which she is not getting.  My question is, is it ok to leave my baby and go for job. what about my emotions and feelings? Please guise help me to get out of this.

Accepted Answer

Thank u so much for responding. We r financially stable. I just told I'll get back to work after 2 years. By then, she will b 4 years old and go to school and can search for some job. But my family says by then u will be 35 years old , u won't get jobs anywhere.  Don't quit

Accepted Answer

As a mother I can completely understand your emotions then I can relate to you for that I can understand your mother feeling for your child but first you to see is it important for you to continue continue with the job because financially stay stability is very very important secondly if your mother-in-law is good towards your child I don’t think so it would be a problem thirdly you have to see what is your status will you be in a condition to re-join your job later or you only want to be the mother and housewife in the longer you have to think of all the aspects and feeling guilty is not going to help because most of the mothers go through the same thing when they re-join the job but there are certain situations that you have to take into consideration before taking any decision