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Living with In Laws!
Living with in-laws after marriage is a custom that Indian women have to follow even today! While it may work out well for some women, there are plenty of issues that may arise. Sometimes it is difficult to find privacy & your personal space in a joint family. What do you think? Share your views on it.
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simran Mom of 2 children 1 Year ago
in-laws are not the issue at all.They are blessings in fact.In today's era everyone wat nuclear family then how your kids come to know about the love of grandparents.Parents wants boy but what son but what that son do after marriage is to maintain space and n interferance..I am also a daughter-in-law.I live with my in-laws.But I take it as my good karma that I have them.There are issues but still there is solution.which is far better.
unity is strength after all.
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Ayesha Naaz Mom of 2 children 1 Year ago
living with inlaws is good and safety for mothers.. iff father mother both are working/ busy in their work. childrens can be with grand parents.. they take care off children as like parents. and childrens care lucky to have grand parents who give love blessing for childrens.
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Arwa Balsara Mom of a 2 yr 2 m old boy 1 Year ago
In reply to Neha jha
Yes very true that it is a custom. But why don't they (in- laws) understand that if a girl is entering her in laws house leaving everything everyone behind, she also need little care and pampering because she is the one who will be your support when you are in need.
The fact that they wanted to look strict in front of the society and wants to take command (even though they think of this in different manner for their own daughter, they wanted a good and caring family for her... why don't they become one first)
some things which in-laws used to say:
1. Prepare food according to my style (no matter how much you are aware of it even if you can prepare tasty food)
2. Don't wear this or that... only wear this otherwise society will scold me ( even though society is busy is there own matter)
3. Your parents don't teach you this at home ( how much you teach your daughter ?..... my parents understands me more than you do)
4. you are teaching my son to behave bad with me ( Your son is not a baby in diaper)
5. Touch feet when anyone is coming to our home and cover your silly face ( why all are coming to judge me am I showpiece ?)
6. you should only work at home because you are giving money to your parents ( who are you to say no to my work and judge me on the basis of society's observation)
7. you don't know anything about our culture, you are bad you should work more and stop reply me back. you are shameless your parents didn't scold you for answering back ( Then you also have a daughter teach her politeness as she will also go to in-laws house one time)

In brackets there are words which we think In mind but will never be able to tell in front.

But be positive and try to isolate yourself from this type of people.
Very true
Rashmita dandasena Guardian of a 3 yr old girl 1 Year ago
they are blessing for us they guide us
Priyanka Mom of 3 children 1 Year ago
elders are some where concerned about us .....it's very lucky to have in-laws they are like trees that provides shadow
shweta shah Mom of 4 children 1 Year ago
In reply to Riya
even I have inlaws ,but they are very helpful , especially in managing the kids.During lockdowns ,we got enough quality time to develop a special bonding. I think they are a blessing . they recuperate the love and acceptance u give them.
lucky you
shweta shah Mom of 4 children 1 Year ago
In reply to Prachi Kadam
Yes, absolutely. we do all the things which our parents taught us before marriage. we do sacrifices for them but they don't even change their habits.
sooo true they want we should do the same as they say
Rehab Maniar Guardian of 2 children 1 Year ago
In reply to Mamta Dhiman
In crona situation , We have to live with inlaws joint family.They are good but
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can't live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can't eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
I totally agree with you
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Ps Raj Mom of 2 children 1 Year ago
In reply to Mamta Dhiman
In crona situation , We have to live with inlaws joint family.They are good but
1.there is no space for your personal life and opinion.
2.Mental health is affected
3. You can't live freely
4. Cant do the things we use to do when live separate
5.Most annoying is back stabbing
6. cant buy the things with freedom,we need to tell them we are buying this that and have to show them
7. can't eat together
8. Cant take care of child properly
9. before speaking we need to make sure it wont hurt them(In short keep quite)
10.most important thing is mental health which is most affected and there is no peace
ryt
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Prachi Kadam Mom of a 1 yr 11 m old boy 1 Year ago
In reply to shaivi
I feel the same....
Yes, absolutely. we do all the things which our parents taught us before marriage. we do sacrifices for them but they don't even change their habits.
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