Why to Stop Being a “Judge” All The Time

By Mahak Arora - Updated: October 31, 2018

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How to Stop Judging Others and Be Accepting

Ever thought why do people judge other people? At some point or the other, we have all been judgmental about our peers, friends, other moms and even family members. Here’s how to stop this fault-finding business and become more acceptable about strangers, off-beat cuisines, or alien nations alike.

It would be untrue to say that you’ve never judged anyone. We’ve all sailed that boat. Be it for new eateries, habits, clothes, people or workplaces, it’s common to find people judge others without concrete logic. While it’s totally okay to have an opinion about people or places, it isn’t so good when your judgement demeans someone or puts them in a bad light. Here, we discuss why you shouldn’t judge others and quit this habit.

How to Stop Judging Others and Be Accepting

1. Insecurity Speaks Negativity

Why do people judge other people? Most do because they are dissatisfied or not too happy about what they have or what they end up being in their current situations. This insecurity makes them believe that the grass is greener on the other side, always. It’s probable that being judgmental makes them feel a tad better about themselves. Or, it helps them justify why things are not the way they’re meant to be.

2. It’s Easy to Bond With the Actions of Others

The easiest way to pass a judgement is by gauging the nature, deeds or possessions of others. But then, does this really create a bond? Probably yes. This is because it’s easy to make choices about others. One’s point of view is never second best—right? However, judging without reason or a cause seldom helps. Before passing an opinion from the outside, it becomes important to step into one’s shoes and see why they’re behaving the way they do. Yes, thoughtfulness counts. It makes you more accepting about others.

3. Are You Feeling Threatened?

Why do we judge others? The perception of threat makes a person take another as an opponent. So, if you felt a pang of jealousy on seeing someone with a fancy car or a better toned body than yours, your head may spiral into thinking negatively and judging them harshly. This makes you give out dismissive glances or utter words that you may otherwise never have uttered.

4. What Does Judging Do?

When you’re judgemental about things, places or people, you end up demeaning yourself and hurting others. You know that your statements were not required and you could have easily done without them. However politically correct you may have been while passing your opinion; you’ll sure leave a bad taste in the mouth of the person you’ve been babbling about. They’ll come to know about it in one way or the other. The more you judge, the more stereotypes you end up creating—about people, fashion, ethnicity, religion, cuisines, countries, or caste…There’s no end to this list.

Stop being judgemental. Accept and acknowledge others the way they are. You’ll soon come out of your state of denial and shove off things that scarcely matter. Overall, you’ll start becoming a more positive person and stop jumping to conclusions. It’s then that you will start liking this world. And the world will in turn throw love back at you.

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