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Raising children is hard, and raising them in a way that they grow up to be happy and content is even harder. As parents, you want to give the best of best to your child and want him to develop a positive attitude towards life, but there’s no one way to do it. There’s no ‘one’ parenting style or technique that can help you to raise your child the way you want. It’s the decisions you make along the way of your parenting journey that will decide how your child will grow up to be. Nevertheless, there are certain tips that you can follow to try your best to raise a happy little individual.
Tips To Help You Raise a Happy Child
It becomes necessary to know what makes a child happy if you want to see him grow normally. Here’s how you can ensure that your child grows up happily.
1. Use Positive Reinforcement
Kids need a lot of validation. For children, parents are the first moral support they have to know whether they are doing a certain thing right or not. Positive reinforcement is necessary to raise a confident and happy child. This is why it is important that you appreciate your child whenever he does something right. But do not praise him when he is wrong. False praise can be harmful; he may look for words of appreciation all the time, which could cause motivation related issues later in life.
2. Teach Your Child to Be Patient
Children are primed to be powered by instant gratification. And in today’s world, with everything being available at the snap of a finger, the need to satisfy any need at a moment’s notice is increasing day by day. It is important to let your kids understand the benefits of long-term enjoyment and just the basic fact that everything takes its own time. By inculcating the values of patience, your kids will stop being their own enemies and won’t feel sad and dejected.
3. Help Your Child Form Good Relationships
Family and friends bring a lot of happiness as well as memorable moments to cherish forever. Kids might bond easily with family and even with their friends. But parents need to teach them to do that with acquaintances or even neighbours. Your own love for your child should not come with a ‘conditions apply’ tag since he needs to rely on you in various matters. By developing relationships with others, it can further empower him in his identity.
4. Teach Your Child to Be Kind
Kids might be possessive in the early days and may not care about others in their life, except for immediate family. Over time, it is necessary for your kids to know that there is more to their life than just themselves. By cultivating empathy and kindness for others, they will begin to discover the happiness of a unique kind that only ever emerges from this. Have honest conversations with your child when he tends to behave in a manner that is unbecoming of him. That will help him establish his own moral compass in the right way and gradually be kind.
5. Make Your Child Independent
Some parents are overprotective about their children and tend to be a helicopter parent. This behaviour can make kids irritated or make them excessively dependent on their parents. Rushing to stop your child from doing something that’s wrong can be harmful to him in the long term, as long as the activity does not have consequences. If your child falls while playing, let him fall and cry for a while. He will gradually learn to dust himself up and start playing again.
6. Establish Proper Routines
At a young age, your child’s mind can be all over the place with the amount of stimulation he receives. That could get him confused and lose focus, causing him to constantly keep wondering what he’s doing. By helping establish a routine, your child can instantly know when to wake up, brush, eat, sleep, study, play, and more. Having a routine also helps him develop a sense of achievement where he has done everything he needs to do in the day. A routine helps repeat activities beneficial to him, and this repetition helps manifest it into a good habit.
7. Work Towards Developing an Interesting Skill
Your child might seem to have a keen interest in a particular thing in his life. It could be as minuscule as collecting different types of leaves to something as complex as understanding how astronauts go into space. He could also be trying his hand at the piano or emulating dance moves by watching videos. Whatever it might be, allow him time to pursue it and guide him in getting better at it. They might not pursue the same skill later on in life, but they would know how to keep at it and get better. Having a hobby will only make them happy and busy!
8. Spend Fun-Filled Moments Together
Your child will cherish the memories spent with you the most. Make time to spend with him in various fun-filled activities. If he likes playing video games, join him on a match and play with each other as well as against each other. Try to disconnect from the role of a parent and an adult, and instead become a child and his friend, while simply enjoying the time with him. That will further strengthen the bond that you have, help develop trust between you both and make him open up to you more often.
9. Ensure That You Listen to Your Child
Many children do communicate their emotions to their parents. However, these are mostly looked at as the usual childhood rants or tantrums and easily ignored. Your child might then begin to develop a sense of not being wanted or inferiority complex. He needs to know that he can talk to you about anything and you will truly understand what he’s going through. Give him time, drop what you’re doing for a moment and listen to him even when he’s telling you what happened in his favourite cartoon episode.
10. Let Your Child See That You Are Happy Too
No amount of games, parties, activities will work if you are an unhappy person yourself. Children tend to sense that a lot quicker than others and will tend to think that’s how life usually is. They might feel guilty if they do have something to be happy about. Happiness is contagious, so if you are happy, your child will be happy with you. So stay happy and let your child see that despite various problems that life throws at them when they grow older, they can always find a reason to be happy.
Raising a child to be a responsible young person and have a happy mindset is not an easy task. The right kind of feedback, interaction, and moderate guidance can help you make your child grow up to be a happy individual. Being a parent, a team player, a friend, and a person he can always rely on will help your child develop his inner personality in a stronger way and make him an adult that you will be extremely proud of.
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